After seeing some threads it's clear that there are chapos here who need a mentor in the romantic arts (tm). Pitch me your best Q's and I'll spit my best A's.
I've been a professional dating coach and matchmaker for the last 6 years.
edit: Wrapped up for now. Thanks everyone and good luck out there, you can do it!
In relation to Yugopnik's short analysis of the commodification of love, and the increased alienation of society to the point that talking to strangers beyond a casual hello or nod of the head is concidered an alien act in societal behavior. My question is how the fuck do you meet people outside of the forced relationships of the workplace? Dating coworkers is generally a bad idea and just having friends among coworkers leads you to mainly talk about work shit which fucking sucks.
I swear to the nine skies if you tell me to go to places where social interactions are acceptable, like bars or clubs, let me just stop you right now. I have been for my entire life, for some reason, what some folks would call a couger magnet. From the time I've been sneaking into bars since middle school to now, every time I've gone out to places that serve booze I've been relentless hit on by significantly older women. That shit's weird lmao.
Haven't seen this video, but I might check it out later. My take is that love in American society has always been commodified, but was previously weighted entirely in men's favor. The playing field is more level now between genders, although still nowhere near equal. This can feel alienating for men sometimes, so I always encourage my clients who are men to consider how intense and risky it still is for women.
I see matchmaking playing a bigger role in American society overtime. This was previously an informal function served by friends "introducing" mutual acquaintances they thought might hit it off.
Aside from that, dating apps can be great if you're willing to put in the time/work. They're very lowstakes and everyone on them is basically shitposting their way onto dates. I saw that comparison made yesterday on the site and I think it's a perfect one.
Dating coworkers is a horrible idea and no one should fucking do it.
That sounds great and I don't see the problem. Sounds like you should talk with some of them and get a better idea of what they like about you. You can then use that to adjust how you present yourself if you're into people closer to your age.
Just for those who are curious: What is the main reason you should not do this?
Power differentials and people's economic stability being on the line. If someone doesn't welcome an advance then the workplace has become hostile. Folks deserve a working environment free from harassment.
The plumber say "you need a plumber", the lawyer says "you need a lawyer," and the matchmaker says "you need a matchmaker" of course hehe
no offense meant tho. respect the hustle.
Yeah, absolutely. If I didn't think the labor I was performing had any value, then I wouldn't be doing this. Definitely biased hah
Cougers are great, particularly if you don't have a ton of experience. They know what they want and know you have less experience then them so they are much more open about telling you how to please them many people are a younger age. And obviously not everything that works for one women will work with others but having some one basically train you on how to have sex is super helpful down the road.