Found this article and I can relate to a lot of the feelings expressed in it. As someone who is questioning their gender and is maybe probably a trans woman I feel the sentiment here. Bother feminists and patriarchy say to men: you are a rapist. You are a predator. You are an opressor. You are a monster. You are a conqueror. You are an abuser. You are this and can only be this. Sexists like Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson say this, and to feel proud of it. Feminism says this and says to feel shame for it. How am I supposed get past the fact that I will always be seen as this even by "allys?" By other trans women, those more trans, more "real", more "woman" than me? When I look in the mirror and feel disgusting for my masculine body and current life, is it dysphoria or just feeling what the messaging I hear of masculinity is? Or both? I hesitate to post this because I know the replies will just be full of accusations of fragility or being an incel and "but you aren't oppressed" that anyone saying anything but scathing denunciation of masculinity get. The transphobic cry of saying you will never be a woman, and the idea of men are trash share the same place in my mind. You will always be a man, a potential rapist, a privileged opressor, the enemy. It feels like I would just trade my disgust with myself for more disgust and fear from the world to be out as trans. Thanks for reading this stupid rant.