This might be too specific, but I'm 25 and just moved to a new city, reconnected with a few old friends, and it is extremely awkward being around them as a "fifth wheel" (they both have long-term gfs) and it feels like I'm just killing the vibe of the double dates as a single man

Anyone else ever find themselves in a similar situation? It sucks

Imo, you're really just kinda boned if you have no way to establish a sense of community later in life (in the United States at least). I lost my religious faith in high school and really wish I wouldn't have.

  • Hohsia [he/him]
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    3 years ago

    I can try, though we're mostly remote right now so it's a bit difficult

    and tbf, most of them absolutely love Marvel and I just can't get into it. I say that because it's usually all they talk about 💀

    • Parent [none/use name]
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      3 years ago

      Yeah I feel you making friends at a remote desk job seems impossible. I also dislike Marvel. Maybe join an adult sports team? If you're in a bigger city could do a reading group or a DSA.

      • LoudMuffin [he/him]
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        3 years ago

        If you’re in a bigger city could do a reading group or a DSA

        do all orgs have reading groups? I have considered joining solely for a reading group cuz I find reading theory alone makes me feel fokken' suicidal

        at least in person you can build a Jenga Tower of Communism :lt-dbyf-dubois:

        • machiabelly [she/her]
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          3 years ago

          Yeah I was in a pedagogy of the oppressed reading group at mine. Any DSA chapter of any size should always have a reading group going.

        • Parent [none/use name]
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          3 years ago

          Yeah I think having reading groups is common. Universitys do too if you have one around you. You could also just join regular reading groups for novels and what not. Still a good way to meet people.