Seek out an ADHD specialist to help pinpoint problem areas, but fundamentals are very important. Emotional control, patience, and dealing with anxiety were really big ones for me, skills nohody taught me as a child because they gave up when the usual method didn't work (great mindset to demonstrate for a child) but I've been working on them and it helps a lot. Visualization was really big for me. Imagining a clockwork spring in my chest that tightened with my level of tension helped me be aware of that tension and learn to dial it down.
There is no one-size-fits-all answer for this shit. You basically have to find your own way and try different approaches than what would work for an NT. Good luck.
Recently diagnosed and the anxiety bit is where I'm struggling the most, working with professionals who know me better is clearly going to be more helpful, but is there anything you can think of that helped you in that respect?
Box breathing helped me more than anything else getting a handle on my anxiety. Breathe in four seconds, hold four seconds, out four seconds, hold four seconds, repeat until heart rate calms the fuck down and you can get a handle on things. Learning how to quiet your thoughts is big too. Me, I figured out imagining a physical sensation in place of words or images helped. Imagined myself performing a glottal stop then mentally moved the sensation to my brainstem.
It's gonna be frustrating as hell but you gotta mentally experiment and figure out what works for your specific shit. It will be painful. But it is eventually rewarding.
Seek out an ADHD specialist to help pinpoint problem areas, but fundamentals are very important. Emotional control, patience, and dealing with anxiety were really big ones for me, skills nohody taught me as a child because they gave up when the usual method didn't work (great mindset to demonstrate for a child) but I've been working on them and it helps a lot. Visualization was really big for me. Imagining a clockwork spring in my chest that tightened with my level of tension helped me be aware of that tension and learn to dial it down.
There is no one-size-fits-all answer for this shit. You basically have to find your own way and try different approaches than what would work for an NT. Good luck.
Recently diagnosed and the anxiety bit is where I'm struggling the most, working with professionals who know me better is clearly going to be more helpful, but is there anything you can think of that helped you in that respect?
Box breathing helped me more than anything else getting a handle on my anxiety. Breathe in four seconds, hold four seconds, out four seconds, hold four seconds, repeat until heart rate calms the fuck down and you can get a handle on things. Learning how to quiet your thoughts is big too. Me, I figured out imagining a physical sensation in place of words or images helped. Imagined myself performing a glottal stop then mentally moved the sensation to my brainstem.
It's gonna be frustrating as hell but you gotta mentally experiment and figure out what works for your specific shit. It will be painful. But it is eventually rewarding.
Thank you!