Is it an adhd thing? Is it a codependent personality? Some kind of dissociation or sensory processing shit?

How do I overcome this problem? I have decent social skills but it feels so meaningless. I feel so lonely even around people.

I know I'm a stranger but shoot your best shot.

  • StarlightGlimmer [they/them]
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    2 years ago

    This is pretty mood and i think it personally comes from my autism + adhd and so much depression. I've also personally devalued human relationships cus I'm really hot and everyone wants to be near me regardless of my shit personality, so fuck them for only caring about looks

    • RonJeremyCorbyn [none/use name]
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      2 years ago

      I’ve also personally devalued human relationships cus I’m really hot and everyone wants to be near me regardless of my shit personality, so fuck them for only caring about looks

      have you tried not being conceited and self-pitying?

        • RonJeremyCorbyn [none/use name]
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          2 years ago

          sharp language, maybe, but i think if one is speaking on their own "shit personality", its not inappropriate to highlight instantiations of that personality.

          tabling the issue if and how it's appropriate to provide instructive, if difficult to hear advice to those who are emotionally unwell, qua their being emotionally unwell: i'm providing feedback, in a thread with posts implicitly soliciting feedback, about the poster's interpersonal behavior, and self talk. i'm sure glimmer brings a lot to the table, and people want to be around them, and this isn't just regarding their looks. glimmer no doubt is a comrade, with, at least abstractly, a lot of empathy. but isolating themselves and cutting out friends, and doing a weird dance wherein they build up how hot they are are so they can feel more worthless about themselves otherwise, is not good.

          no one else responded to the above post. implicitly everyone thought that way of thinking was appropriate. i disagree -- miss me with that soft "boomer" shit.

            • RonJeremyCorbyn [none/use name]
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              2 years ago

              i'm going out. i love you. i understand how my tone can be conflated, even fairly, with an uncaring, unsympathetic boomers. i'm sure you're dealing with your mental or emotional health things (i have as well, and probably still am a bit). i'm sure we are projecting in our own way. i only mean for us to all be better, because i know we can be.

              enjoy the new year comrade(s).

            • RonJeremyCorbyn [none/use name]
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              2 years ago

              look here: comments like "I've also personally devalued human relationships" are totally alienated and are not cool. implicitly endorsing them, and not challenging them, is also not cool. if you don't like my bedside manner, fine. but i'm the only person who provided OP with any kind of positive feedback, so again miss me with the crocodile tears.

              and frankly, yes, i categorially reject the notion that OP can't or shouldn't be challenged, given their emotional/mental wellbeing. that's totally infantilizing. as a leftist, human relationships are a necessary good; not succumbing to despair is a necessary disposition to the World. you're welcome to frame in another, more superficially empathic way. but fucking do it then.

      • GaveUp [she/her]
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        2 years ago

        I mean, that definitely does happen. I don't see why we always have to shut down perfectly reasonable hypotheses like these because somebody acts in a way some find undesirable

        Starlight might actually just be extremely attractive and doesn't have low self esteem so they own it. No problem with acknowledging that they're hot

        • RonJeremyCorbyn [none/use name]
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          2 years ago

          i'm not questioning if glimmer is hot or not. i'm rhetorically underscoring that glimmer, by their own self-description, is an evidenced lame hang, and the best way to make real, authentic, mutually beneficial interpersonal connections is not to spitefully cut people out of their life, but, ya know, put in the work or whatever.