Is it an adhd thing? Is it a codependent personality? Some kind of dissociation or sensory processing shit?

How do I overcome this problem? I have decent social skills but it feels so meaningless. I feel so lonely even around people.

I know I'm a stranger but shoot your best shot.

  • Sea_Gull [they/them]
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    2 years ago

    I'm in a similar boat and one thing that I'm trying to cultivate right now is a sense of independence. In the sense that I won't depend in the opinions of others before I make choices that only affect me.

    I think I would hold back on a lot of plans because I was trying to get permission from other people.

    I hope by doing that, I'll be able to seek out people without immediately seeking their validation.

    It sucks though because I'm starting to see who I've surrounded myself with and how I want them to perceive me. I don't feel seen by them because I was/am afraid to disappoint people.

    • OgdenTO [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      Yes this is me,

      I am always surprised when someone actually listens to something I say, or when someone reacts with empathy to some problem I am having