My (indigenous) girlfriend said something recently that I just have no clue how to grasp.

Disclaimer: I've always been really bad at explaining opinions/making arguments to people.

We are amerikkkan (sorry)

We we're talking about china and it's modern government. This had always been a sensitive topic for us: I usually state something to the effect of "there are some very real problems with china but the country is an overal good for not only the people but the whole world." Whilst they take strong problem with destruction of historical artifacts/art during the revolution (they are an art historian) and find it irredemable. The thing that really confused me recently was them equating the "nepalese cultural genocide" (I have no real knowledge of what they are talking about) to the genocide of their people. For added detail, they and their tribe are currently fighting for the preservation of what remains of the tribe's historical artifacts.

I don't want to add many personal details but it should suffice to say their tribe was almost completely wiped out.)

Am I just off base for not understanding what they are talking about here? This comparison seems completely wild to me and I don't know if I'm just being insensitive or something.

  • 7bicycles [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    So do you like her, otherwise? I don't think there's a point where you could convince someone who is drawing genocide parallels of the opposite here. You either stick with this, people have their sore spots, or you bail.

    • 99LuftBalloons [none/use name]
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      2 years ago

      Yeah an American's opinion on China is literally less than worthless. As long as they share your values on community/national issues you can probably disregard everything else.

      Even if she was a "West Taiwan haha" nerd it wouldn't matter because you're basically just doing hypothetical at this point. Her opinions have no more relevance to China than her opinions on her favorite movie character.

      • 7bicycles [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        Her opinions have no more relevance to China than her opinions on her favorite movie character.

        See this I agree on

        Yeah an American’s opinion on China is literally less than worthless.

        But good god none that's a girlfriend we're talking about. I'm all onboard having different opinions, even if they suck, but fuck me do they not make them worthless in a relationship context

    • gaycomputeruser [she/her]
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      2 years ago

      I think it just throws me cause they are literally the only person I know directly with a good opinion on the dprk.

      • GaveUp [she/her]
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        2 years ago

        That's honestly crazy they have a good opinion of the dprk but not China

        Never heard of this before

          • GaveUp [she/her]
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            2 years ago

            Should gently mention how much her opinion on DPRK (presumably) changed before and after the degree and let her know she probably needs to learn a bit more about China as well