I tried typing this into Google, but it returned 20 pages of "My wife gained weight and I don't love her. How can I convince her to start an eating disorder?" FFS the West.
Comrades, I wish to fuck that my gf gaining a few kilos was even in my top ten list of problems right now. I tell her that's she's fine. We're getting older, and we both put on a few kilos. I try to be supportive, and just let her feel comfortable with the new reality. It's like a major stressor for her. I guess some of her workmates and relatives have made comments. I tell her to tell those people to tell me. What kind of person comments on another person's appearance?
Just a final rant. Both me and me gf work sorta stressful office jobs, and we both end up doing a lot of overtime. Stress, anxiety, and a lack of time contribute to a less than ideal health situation. I know IRL a few venture capitalist types that spend hours in the gym everyday, but they're the worst humans imaginable. My gf comes from a working class background, and she's one of the kindest people I know. I don't mean to shame anyone that loves the gym, but spending adequate time on fitness isn't super easy in late stage capitalism.
Anyhow, if any of you comment on anyone's weight ever, I will literally claw your face.
Have you ever been/been with an insecure person? Rational or not, switching your message from "you're fine the way you are" to "let's try going for walks" is liable to cause their insecurities to go into overdrive thinking you secretly do mind, and do think they need to lose weight, and I'm not sure any amount of prefacing and reassurances can negate that effect if she.
If she were able and willing to make time to exercise, then absolutely, be supportive, but suggesting it outright might be something to be careful about or avoid depending on the person. I think that's the key, we don't know this person as well as OP does, maybe she'd be receptive to that, or maybe they absolutely don't have time, or that suggestion would worsen her stress.
Maybe that's true. People can be insecure about certain aspects of their life, body, career, or whatever and not be insecure and unstable overall. I wasn't going to jump to conclusions about the person's partner.