I tried typing this into Google, but it returned 20 pages of "My wife gained weight and I don't love her. How can I convince her to start an eating disorder?" FFS the West.
Comrades, I wish to fuck that my gf gaining a few kilos was even in my top ten list of problems right now. I tell her that's she's fine. We're getting older, and we both put on a few kilos. I try to be supportive, and just let her feel comfortable with the new reality. It's like a major stressor for her. I guess some of her workmates and relatives have made comments. I tell her to tell those people to tell me. What kind of person comments on another person's appearance?
Just a final rant. Both me and me gf work sorta stressful office jobs, and we both end up doing a lot of overtime. Stress, anxiety, and a lack of time contribute to a less than ideal health situation. I know IRL a few venture capitalist types that spend hours in the gym everyday, but they're the worst humans imaginable. My gf comes from a working class background, and she's one of the kindest people I know. I don't mean to shame anyone that loves the gym, but spending adequate time on fitness isn't super easy in late stage capitalism.
Anyhow, if any of you comment on anyone's weight ever, I will literally claw your face.
Yeah it sounds like the stress is mostly externally imposed by those assholes, or at least that's what your post implies. This is a good time to be supportive so stay the course!
This also includes being more open to any changes she wants to make in response. Even if you think they're dumb. Lots of "yes we can try that and I'll help but don't forget this isn't an issue for me I just want you to be happy".
This is some darn good advice right here ⭐