I wish I had an answer. Even people I share things in common with I'm not sure at all how to interact with them. All my interests are solitary, like reading or collecting stuff. I don't get a lot out of interpersonal relationships. I run out of things to say or...I don't know how to say this without sounding like an asshole, I just don't care about people's personal lives. I don't feel involved or curious or anything. I have to force myself to act social and pleasant, but it's just an act. It always feels wrong and forced. I've never met another person who felt natural to be with.

I have joined orgs, volunteered, etc. I still do work with Food not Bombs occasionally. Even then it's difficult. Like I'm just there to do work and leave. I've been invited for drinks or food with the folk, and I will, but nothing's ever turned into a friendship. Just a kind of platonic respect where we don't say much.

The problem's definitely me. I've got bad, medically diagnosed social anxiety and should be on meds. Being around other people for primarily social reasons makes me hate myself. So if any of that sounds like you, I guess my advice is get on therapy and meds, because that's probably what I need.