After some recent bullshit they pulled in which they absolutely refused to even entertain a thought process of culpability, I realized that I couldn't remember an instance where they admitted they fucked up. I'm not talking about small little shit (even those apologies are super rare though), I mean important shit. Is this a boomer parent thing? A parent-child dynamic? Something else?
Never an admission of fuck ups, though they are willing to acknowledge some things were hard. Granted to be fair, a lot of the shit I carry really wasn't their fault (history, as Fred Jameson says, is what hurts). Instead, it's just having to live through the same shitty things they also had to deal with.
My mom sort of apologized once for things being hard which is honestly more than I've ever expected.
I think there's a generational resistance, but they can move towards it.
I hope you get some closure eventually comrade