So this video popped up on my YouTube feed. WARNING: copoganda, murder, discussion of domestic violence. The tldr is that the woman accidentally killed her boyfriend, the boyfriend got arrested for a few domestic violence calls so 🤷, but then the woman goes completely white lady on the situation and denies any responsibility and argues every point like a 5 year old. Her lawyers all quit because they can't stand her, and people are chiming in the comments that they knew her IRL and that she was a massive a-hole in her town. One lawyer quit over professional differences, and other lawyers quit for different reasons.
I sorta think that maybe this woman sucks, but locking her in a box for 40 years isn't gong to help anything.
I will mention that I've been burnt hard by narcissists in the past. But once I've learned to spot them, they're just often sad. There's a few in my various communities, and we all just sorta manage and ignore them. Oh, maybe I'm wrong, but they often seem more rich than the general population.
As someone who was raised by narcissists what they really need is to be in a gulag. Working on a farm, building community, and not having control over others.
My nmom got dramatically worse when she moved to the burbs and became overlord of our household.
Community environments with positive social pressure / reparenting is what's needed. She got the way she did after growing up in a hoader house with eight kids. She was left to fend for herself emotionally, and it made her so volatile and controlling that I had to go NC.
There is a good person in there, but she just doesn't know how to empathize outside her pov.