Burner account but I swear I'm a real person here. Hopefully I don't thoroughly dox myself but I'm in my thirties and have, for the first time, been forced to use the dating apps. I hate them. However, I (a cis guy) matched with a vegan, communist (based on profile) woman around my age and now I'm banging my head against a wall trying to think of like how to start a convo? I'm so old and stupid, irl I'm not really that worried about meeting people but this is messing with me.

Edit: to clarify, I am also a vegan communist

  • SocialistWombat [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    I know this sucks to hear but you should accept that you might bomb out and it probably won't be your fault. Online dating doesn't have the familial vetting process that IRL dating has, which means women gotta be paranoid.

    • Abraxiel
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      2 years ago

      An more positive spin to this is to assume it's probably not gonna work out and just try your best. Just send that shit, find out what does or doesn't work, get comfortable in the saddle again.

      • SocialistWombat [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        Absolutely. Dating is 100% a numbers game. Get in there, it's worth it. :left-unity-4:

    • Hohsia [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      Can confirm that OLD sucks ass and I wish people just met irl