Is it someone you see and immediately want to make out with/fuck? Because if I see someone who is aesthetically pleasing/interesting, I make the decision to try to get to know them as a person before I escalate things further. And I’m starting to think this is atypical because my track record isn’t great.
Is that just a long-winded way to describe an average crush? Does it vary from person to person?
Idk I would consider that upfront lust to be a crush. I mean maybe a bit of that damn they're attractive hitting you all at once, but to me the crush is more just the "can't stop thinking about them" part, and while maybe you do sorta want to fuck right away, I think it's just a reasonable adult thing to do to try to get to know someone a bit more if your interest is romantic not just sexual. Especially considering you might get to know them and realize they aren't who you thought they were at all.
Everyone is different, some people go straight to gettin it on, and more power to them, but I think your perspective is pretty normal.