Oh boy
I guess my irl opinion when it comes to marriage is controversial (I believe it hasn’t really been deconstructed since it’s inception and is problematic for a number of reasons), but I’m curious whether anyone shares the same thoughts. Like finding your forever person? 100% 
Everything else associated with it like the status symbol, doing it just to do it, inconsistent sharing of responsibilities? No good imo
Could be my autistic brain taking over, but I truly cannot comprehend why something like this needs to be in writing to be “official”
Idk I’m opinionated and sometimes my opinions suck and I need someone to bring me back to reality
My partner and I see and experience each other kind like strands of a twin helix. They are so much more than just a friend or a sex outlet to me and vice versa, and reducing them to either as a comparison to other people feels like it’s coming from a place of ignorance. Both of us understand its roots in patriarchy and reification in capitalism, and so we do what we can do quarantine and eliminate those influences in our marriage experience. For us, it’s not like a rote participation in a toxic institution — it’s a sort of fantastic and almost whimsical agreement with one another to be each other’s helix in life. I’m sure that can give us blindspots of experiencing other aspects of life, but right now neither of care at all, because we’re doing this together in a way we both want to