thank you for sharing this. for many people beging forced to log off and shouted down to go touch grass basically means 'socially isolate yourself for a time away from your core socialisation'. I get extreme bouts of anxiety at times that make going outside hard; I am lucky enough to have people in my life who can deal with my anxiety and help me, but before them? being told to 'log off and touch grass' just meant sit in your room alone for me

I am nott saying there have not been signs of unreconstructed misogyny of late. I saw the cheating thread and others like it, there is an undercurrent of a problem at certain times. you do not do service to the space projecting those problems onto a bunch of people you do not know in a space where we supposedly pride ourselves on good faith engagement

I'd like to add that a thing creeping into a lot of these discussions is the survey. the survey is not a representitive of all users, it is a self selecting group of people who took one to give us a sample of the userbase that we have extrapolated. the survey itself says around 600 people responded. a look at the side bar will show you the number of users a day/week/month regularly exceeds this. people in that thread of the survey results were debating about how many trans men and cis women were even on here because the data does not tell them this, so they invented readings from it.

furthermore, the survey does not say; are the 'he/him's cis, are the 'he/hims' white, are the 'he/hims' straight. you do not know who is behind the prounoun tag and username, do not invent a bogeyman out of users based on a survey. it is not empirical evidence. cis het jacketing he/hims is not useful, and can do a lot to hurt people in ways you do not know. I've seen this shit hurt trans men friends of mine so many times

thank you, honestly. social spaces are never just a website, or just a this or that. people care, and some people get very attached to a community they invest in and invests back in them. it's not easy for a lot of us ND posters to just not care about certain things, that's not how my brain works. you have shown some amazing sincerity here and I respect and admire that a lot

I'm not smart enough to come up with usernames all the time

never played the vicky 3 anbennar mod, only ever stuck to the EU4 mod. they got the Jadd in Vicky 3? did my based Islamic elves survive the centuries?

I would like to thank the people of the Korean peninsular for Kimchi. I bought a bunch and am eating some with steamed rice rn

the things that stop me telling people to come here are not the dunk tanks or that type of culture. this being such an insular place with an often defensive mindset does a lot more to removedoff new people who don't know the party line* yet does a lot more than 'they shit on random nazis'

*I do not mean liberals and bigots, I mean leftists. ofc there's no place for scum here

my wife has signed on to Operation Buy DTB Expensive Cardboard, aka 'let me buy pokemon cards becausee I am very sad and have pokemon autism'

I had a bunch when making pumpkin soup over the halloween weekend. I just tossed them in olive oil and then into the air fryer for like 5-10 minutes. crushed them up and used them as a garnish for the soup

that sounds like a VERY romantic response to me

Smoliv is one of those pokemon names that's just so good. it's a cute lil guy that's a small olive, idk if I could ever do better than that

I should have seen it. I just figured with the Peurto Rico joke, and abortion, it looked like the polling was based on something. I've literally taken classes on why surveys of the general public are shit with selection biases, and I still fell for the copium of liberals... and now I owe @Tomboymoder@hexbear.net a drink over it

cops just sit on this estate a friend of mine lives at, like fucking deployed troops occupying the place. it doesn't make people safer, and the fucks don't even stop the crime they're supposedly there to stop, they just make crime by harassing people

I thought Kamala could clinch it last moment too, certain polling looked that way. I am not surprised, but it is egg on my face for listening to liberal pollsters and the likes

not really relivant to the actual procession of events, but between 15 and 16 we have Alaskaball banning themselves as a bit and refering to themselves as a 'fella' on their admin alt, leading to a mini drama bomb as it looked like another admin misgendering the userbase moment

I honestly hhope our admin team (whatever's left of it) appolagises to them for it. even if it 'doesn't matter', we were rude in a way that would piss me off if another instance dragged that kind of shit over here. we're not the cool kids who own lemmy, we supposedly voted to be part of a wider community

that's part of whhat I mean. ofc us shitting ourselves doesn't look great, but then also bringing the detachhed 'fuck you, lol, you think I care?' posting into their space is just embarassing. they have their own thing going on, and some of us did not respect the vibes while well meaning federated comrades who hang out ere were trying to work out what the fuck was going on and any potential fallout to their community

anybody else kinda embarassed after looking at the Lemmygrad thread asking what the fuck is going on with us