Oh lord. That was more than enough cringe. The hook of "I don't care if I offend you" really hammers home that they aren't offensive, just sheisty dramatic coat riders.
They're so offended that their opinions are largely considered shit that they wrote a song solidifying that they are "men," and disagreement with them makes them upset enough to attempt to write thinly veiled propaganda music in warehouse basements to broadcast to everyone as if they are somehow being silenced.
I understand your frustration and want you to know my completely personal opinion but I'm going to explain it through my own experiences.
As every aspiring lead guitarist does, I loved Van Halen. Their verses and choruses weren't very hard to learn once I got the basics down, but obviously the solos would have to come later. Anyway, I loved "Ain't talkin bout love". I found some tabs and learned the intro after a week and I had it down. It never sounded perfect but it was super fun to play.
A couple years later I found that the tabs I learned were entirely "wrong" from someone who learned it the way EVH actually played it. That guy thought the way I played it was way cooler than the way he played it. All the notes were the same but it was more technical and apparently more impressive looking, and he wished he could play it that way I did.
There are so many ways to play every song note for note, but only one way to play it "correctly". That correct way may be easy, or it may be hard, but if it sounds good, it is good. The wrong way can make you a better player and sometimes learning "wrong" can be a good thing.
If it's so hard that you are getting frustrated, you can always bench it for later, find easier ways to play it, find more technique based lessons on how to play it, or break it into smaller parts and practice those small pieces until you have the dexterity.
Another opinion of mine that Marty Friedman said best is "learning a song perfectly is a hobbyist's goal." There's so much nuance to every guitar players style that there's little chance you will ever sound exactly like them. Even the greatest guitarists can only get close to emulating another great guitar players sound. If you focus on sounding perfect, you most likely won't progress very far and it won't happen very quickly. The concepts are key.
Learn to strum the chords, doesnt have to be perfectly strummed. If it's a G-C-D progression, even if it's fingerprinted, just strum along. Maybe add some embellishments. Maybe use your ear to add some harmony, or try to come up with your own chord shapes.
As for self doubt, you're most likely going to have to live with it, so get used to it. Are you going to be the next EVH, Hammet, Rhoads, Yngwie, Tosin, Holdsworth, Guthrie, or Lane? Most likely not. They're freaks of nature. Can you make beautiful, insane, creative music that is all your own and exactly what you want to hear? Absolutely. You'll likely even surprise yourself with how good you get when you let the pressure of being perfect go.
The fact that you even asked about how to get better shows you want more, and you're willing to ask the questions to get there. If any of this sounds patronizing I apologize and don't mean it as such. I just don't know what level you're at with your playing and knowledge, but I wish you the best, and if you have any questions about anything guitar related you can feel free to message me and ask. 🙂
I can't tell you what's right or wrong but in my opinion, learn songs you like for a while. The first rule is to have fun.
Pretty much every song's chords are available online so you can start slowly by strumming along to any song. If that becomes boring or tedious for whatever reason try singing along while playing.
Try using your ear to play the melody on a single note. You shouldn't be trying to sound amazing at first, because really, even after years of playing no one feels satisfied with how they sound. You should be building your dexterity, training your ear, pushing your talent, and as always, having fun.
There's going to be a bunch of technique snobs everywhere in every community of anything. Guitar is one of those things.
After 2 years of playing I realized I was holding my pick "wrong". I re-trained myself with a "correct" technique within a week. A couple years later I found a new technique of holding the pick. Again, within a week I was able to play everything I could previously while holding the pick in a dramatically different way.
Technique is something you can pick up along the way. Yes, if you practice "proper" technique from the start you will be better off, but that's only if you continue playing. Playing in a regimented fashion where you must play "properly" often times turns people away from playing at all.
All of this depends on what you actually want to do with the guitar and what your goals are.
Is it to be able to play along with some of your favorite songs? Is there a certain skill level you want to attain? Do you want to focus on lead, or rhythm?
I, for example, wanted to play the entirity of Crazy Train. I thought that as long as I could play that, I would be happy. After I learned Crazy Train, I figured, if I could play whatever note I heard in my head I would be happy. Then it was whatever phrase or riff I was hearing in my head. Then it was jamming. My practice of learning songs, paired with some very basic dexterity exercises got me beyond what my initial goal was.
That said, a good guitar teacher being there one on one will absolutely accelerate your learning. They should be asking you a lot of these same questions and directing you accordingly. More importantly than anything though, they should be making sure you're having fun. Fun gets done. Chores get ignored.
I have no idea about Australian labor laws but I do know adulthood is defined as 18. What I'm about to ask is honestly ignorance so don't take it as sarcasm, so what in the fucking fuck is going on in Australia that at ages 18 to 20 is considered 40% wage in any industry? What industries will pay 100% versus 40%? Do you guys not have laws protecting ageism? Am I too tired to be on the internet? Just kidding. I know I am. See ya'll in the morning.
When I first heard of goon porn and looked for some videos to figure out what it was, I was met with a wall of gay and trans porn compilations. Straight cis goon porn is actually a small minority from what I have seen.
If you found out she has gestational diabetes from anyone else but her, and that she's having a hard time, let it be. If she told you herself in an honest moment of comfort, tell her "I'm so sorry. That sucks." And let her vent. The last thing she wants is for anyone to make a big deal about it, solve her problems, or choose her diet.
Bring in donuts again. Seriously. She's an adult and can choose to eat them.
Bring in a more health conscious option. Once again, she can choose to eat it or not.
You're trying to find an option when most likely you shouldn't know about her personal health issues in the first place. Unless you have a very close relationship that you aren't letting us know about, you shouldn't be trying to figure out something to give her to make her feel better. She could very easily feel ostracized for her pregnancy in the first place. Employers arent super cool with pregnancies, let alone pregnancies that are in any magnitude more difficult.
What makes will make her feel better is a coworker that respects her space and private health matters. Don't treat her as special. Treat her as human.
Saw one yesterday where a guy was selling a meta quest 3. He said " Bought it and used it twice. Wasn't worth the upgrade from a quest 2. Total waste of money."
Besides Kenji's food lab, learning the 5 French "mother" sauces is necessary. Almost every sauce is just a variation of those sauces.
Learning how to make a bechamel will give you the biggest reward IMO. Gravy, cheese sauce, cream sauces for pasta, all of those are just a bechamel with different things added. Garlic cream sauce for pasta? Add garlic to a bechamel. Gravy for potatoes, beef, chicken, or whatever? Add some thyme, rosemary and onion to a bechamel. Cheese sauce for Mac and cheese, or a cheese dip? Add cheese and some mustard powder to a bechamel.
Ridiculously simple, takes only a few minutes, and come thanksgiving, everyone will rave about your gravy since everyone seems to just buy the jars of flavorless garbage gravy.
Kenji is the new Alton Brown. He's brilliant and he's changing the food game. A few weeks ago I thought, "do other people use this ingredient like this?" Top result is from Kenji. Then a few hours later I think, "Can I put this dish in the oven and roast it instead of watching the pot?" First result is Kenji.
Every time I make anything I try to push the envelope. I rarely look up any recipes. I just cook to better my dishes, but every time I think "did I just come up with something no one has ever thought to do?", I find that no I haven't, and Kenji already perfected its execution 4 years ago.
Fuckin go for it bud.