KimJongFun [he/him]

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Cake day: January 5th, 2022

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  • KimJongFun [he/him]toacabYea or nay?
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    5 months ago

    Yeah, I mean I know intellectually I don't have to list them all out and that's not actually, really, what I'm being asked for when someone asks this. And over the years I've gotten better, generally, at just picking something and running with it. It's if that first answer doesn't land though, that the panic sets in and I get this self destructive feeling like I have to justify my whole life, to prove that yes, actually, I am fun and I do fun things and have fun hobbies, please believe me. And ultimately what that really means is that person and I probably just aren't meant to be friends, but damned if I can tell my brain that in the moment


  • KimJongFun [he/him]toacabYea or nay?
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    5 months ago

    Just speaking personally, questions that are super broad like that trigger my social anxiety super hard. The more possible answers I have to a question the harder it is to answer it, especially if I'm trying to use the subject as a springboard for a real conversation and not just listing things out about myself while the other person stares blankly until I crumple into awkward silence, which of course is what inevitably happens after overthinking this. But I'm a socially inept bundle of neuroses so I guess your mileage may vary