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Cake day: June 1st, 2023
  • Oka@lemmy.mltoAsk Lemmygrad@lemmygrad.ml•How and where did you make your close friends?
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    4 months ago

    The closest friends I have is:

    • Kid I met in a programming forum about 11 years ago. We were friends but not super close. Over time kept reaching out. Today, still not super close in my opinion, but talk on the regular.
    • His recent friend of the family

    I have had a few really close friends in life, but we are no longer friends

    • Middle school: a girl my age. We played Minecraft together
    • 18-20: a guy into programming (same programming forum), and shared very similar game interests
    • 20-22ish: A couple friends I played a minecraft RPG with. One became a streamer, the other 2 just changed interests.

    Also, not a lemmygrad user, just saw the post in Hot.

  • Oka@lemmy.mltochat•I can't get over how I spent most of my life trying to be part of the cool group, and now I can't be fucked
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    7 months ago

    Your wording is intense. I'm not sure if that's just your online persona, or just venting in this thread, but it's not very welcoming. You seem like you talk more than listen. I'm not trying to roast you or start bad vibes, that's just my impression.

    • Communism could be a better political system, but any political system is subject to failure or overpowered elites
    • I have no problems wearing masks when it is applicable. When covid started I didn't go anywhere without one. I was in San Francisco, where everything shutdown overnight.
    • I made friends with a vegan, and after we talked, I concluded that in another life I would be a vegetarian, but I was born to a butcher. I would love if modern meat were replaced by lab meat. I do eat vegan meals sometimes. I think utilizing milk and eggs, etc. for human consumption is fine, they are byproducts that would go to waste otherwise, however it has gotten very inhumane because of the industrial scale.
    • What's your definition of activist?

    Let's not confuse this with wanting to be friends, parts of your ideals are relatable, but from my impression, our debates would result in you trying to win everything.

  • Oka@lemmy.mltochat•I can't get over how I spent most of my life trying to be part of the cool group, and now I can't be fucked
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    7 months ago

    If you're not marxist/anarchist, activist, vegan, and/or mask wearing

    Hate to break it to you, but that's a very niche person. It's also limiting to constrain your associates to those traits. That could be the ideal friend group, sure, but you can still make friends with someone completely opposite of you, if you are both mature and understanding of each other's beliefs.

    I have a couple friends like that, we talk about our differences, but we don't try and convert the other person, or make them feel bad for liking one thing over another.

    I met a vegan online, and they shared information that was new to me. I learned that, in another life, I would be vegetarian. If I had not spent time getting to know this person, or meeting the many other people I have, I would not have learned as much, and I would still be very naive.

  • Oka@lemmy.mltochat•I wish everyone was into androgyny
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    7 months ago

    I'm into androgyny. But, I also don't have the guts to approach people I don't have something in common with, because then I think that other people think I'm just "looking to score."

    Also I'm unattractive, so there's no point in trying.