Settling into my new place and enjoying our backyard that the previous tenants turned into a little veggie field.

Put myself together a cute little gardening outfit from the clearance aisle (jeans were too short but otherwise perfect). My partner was gassing me up and even I sorta thought i looked cute despite not shaving for a few days.

Unfortunately my back is a fuck and I can't work for longer than an hour or two.

The silver lining is that my eyes and lashes are so goddamn pretty actually. When I have my bangs properly styled I really like my face from the nose up. It's the one thing keeping me going right now.

Signed my new lease and now i'm officially roomies with two queer people.

Also ended up with a bathroom that actually has a bathtub so I'm definitely gonna try out bath bombs at some point

their child ate one "with pink packaging"

NOT THE CARBONARA

That's not disgusting that sounds incredible, how did I not think of that before. Maybe one could add crushed peanuts and green onions as well.

This is exactly what bothers me about these people and for me it's especially exemplified by the one person who posted the astronaut lady with the dogs.

I posted this earlier with full metadata (sorry, I still have not gotten around to fix the poor dog's legs 😅): Except for her companions, she is leaving everything behind...

There is just something about the image that make me want to hug her and her dogs, and assure her that everything will be all right.

Like what the fuck do you mean "There is something about the image..."

Mother fucker you supposedly created the image you're supposed to know what it is "about the image".

See if you can find queer meetings in your area! I know a nearby city to me has weekly trans adult meetings at one of the community centers.

my gender got retconned

I can empathize pretty strongly with wanting to distance yourself from those who wallow in or fetishize their own sadness. A few years back my friend group as a whole did a bit of restructuring because we were tired of so many things being centered on the struggles in life. It just gets exhausting, like being stuck under a cloud of negativity.

From the start of my self-discovery I've tried to keep the mindset of "following the joy". There's too many things in this life that are fucked, why does one of the most important and most personal things in my life have to be as well?

Happy pride

Is there some big problem with the book that makes it not actually a good book that I'm missing?

Not really, no. Unless you consider the somewhat dated language a problem (which honestly some people are going back on now), Julia Serano wrote a very very good transfeminist text. The problem with that (and my answer to your next question) is that, how often do you see transfeminists actually talked about in the mainstream or at all for that matter?

Thankfully in recent weeks, at least 3 "big" trans youtubers (Alexander Avila, Philosophy Tube, and I can't remember the last one I saw, maybe Avelo?) have referenced Whipping Girl and Julia Serano in their videos. (Naively) Optimistically this could put a few more eyes on it which would only be a good thing.

I myself am constantly referencing the text when discussing (trans) gender politics with (cishet male) friends as well as when commenting online.

I love this book. I think about the text so often in my life. I immediately bought the paperback after I officially started coming out and could actually have physical objects relating to my transness. Before I read the book I was already sorta on the path to actually understanding intersectional feminism, but Whipping Girl cemented my resolve to really "get into" transfeminism.

I also sincerely wish more people trans or otherwise would read Whipping Girl, not just in spaces like this where we openly embrace theory, but even in less leftist spaces as well. Unfortunately in today's day and age, getting people to read books is like pulling teeth.

Redditer 1: lol this game was meant for us my friend. I'm giggling at the downvote on my previous comment. They really are the height of irony.

there is no emoji that can sufficiently display my utter disgust for this kind of person/reddit user

I think what helped me was reading other trans people's experiences with self-discovery as well as the ways some of us tend to deny our own feelings and even fiction about the trans experience. Talk, listen, read. Find someone or a group that will listen to the ways you feel. Rant or vent in the spaces that you can.

It's a trope at this point but something that really helped me was reading through Nevada. Specifically the second half of Nevada that deals with denial, repression, and trying to rationalize the feelings away.

The trans experience is vast and diverse and your journey is just as valid as someone who may fit the image of the trans person that the media sells to society at large. Sometimes we just don't have the words to know what specifically is wrong, only that something is wrong. Sometimes we only begin to acknowledge that our normal isn't the normal until we have whatever knowledge may have been missing.

Had a very weird encounter this morning with one of the tenants in a neighboring apartment building.

When I have to park on the other side of our block I cut through a neighboring apartment courtyard as a shortcut, this morning I did the same thing, but as I was crossing the alley to get to that courtyard there was a woman pulling out of their parking. She wasn't signaling so I couldn't tell if she was turning left or right so I just kept walking straight. She apparently took offense at this because she immediately got pissed and rolled down her window then started harassing me about how I shouldn't do that, whatever that is, as well as how I shouldn't cut through their courtyard. Fine great whatever I'll stop if it bothers them so much.

I mostly ignored her and just kept walking without stopping, but after I got to my car and before I could pull out she boxed me in and started either recording or taking pictures. I rolled down my window and gave her a little wave and a smile and she started harassing me further about how I'm very rude (I actually try to make the least amount of noise possible when I cut through, as their gates will slam shut if you let them) and how she could have hit me (she clearly saw me and again, didn't signal which way she was going to turn) and how I'm probably the person who has been stealing their packages (I was very confused about this and obviously immediately denied this) and how she's going to tell my apartment complex. Cool great whatever now I have to deal with this later as well as the increased anxiety I'm going to feel about having to park around the area.

But then just as she was starting to drive away she decided to lob a transphobic comment at me.

Ouch.

On one hand how fucking dare she.

On the other hand, I'm full boy mode, like stubble growing in with sweats and a hoodie on. The only possible gender marker was my hair length and style? idk i kinda just tussled it gently after showering this morning and i'm in one of them liberal coastal states where long hair on guys isn't out of place.

How did she know chat?

I partially consider this a win if she read me as some kinda queer femmy boy thing just from my hair and face all things aside.

Also ngl I'm finding it like wildly affirming- my first public, in-person transphobic interaction.

In the last two weeks I've started to see more trans youtubers (video essays are my slop) referencing Whipping Girl and transmisogyny, lets goooo.

Got my laser hair removal auth in the mail on wednesday and I got some kind of sick on thursday.

I'm so mad, I really wanted to start it this weekend but now I have to wait til next weekend because these fucking losers at my work can't be assed to stay home when they're sick.

On the bright side I did get to meet my potential new roommates this week, one of them is my friend's partner and is NB, and the other is a trans woman. Suddenly I get to be around other queer people and it's completely by chance. They're both very leftist which is super cool, but we'll have to see exactly where they fall. Things they've both said make me think they're open to marxism but you never know.

I'm a big fan of bravado hot sauces.

I think their spiciest flavors are the Aka Miso Ghost Pepper, the Black Garlic Carolina Reaper, the Garlic & Arbol Moruga Scorpion, and the Ancho Masala Scorpion Reaper.

For something a step down I like their Ghost pepper & Blueberry as well as their Serrano & Basil.

Their bottles are about $12-$13 for 5oz. I wouldn't pay more than that tbh.

I am taking an AA thankfully. I'll go get a blood test next week and see what my endo says afterwards