I think there’s a disconnect here. You’re saying that every state uses violence to maintain their rule/internal stability, which is true. But you’re responding in a thread that’s pointing out how weird it is to support LGBT rights on the one hand and support Russia and China on the other, where same-sex couples are not treated equally under the law. So I’m not asking “why are you ok with state-monopolized force”. I’m asking “why are you ok with these particular states”.
If I’m honest, I don’t really understand what you’re saying. It sounds like he’s embarrassed/upset after trying to be helpful and do a good job and having it thrown back in his face. And your response seems to be “well, you’re a man so I see her point”? That’s so far out of left field that I honestly don’t know how to respond.