this may become an incredibly weird struggle session
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agreed 100% when i started reducing the amount self deprcating "humor" i used i became more likable and also found myself less drained in social interactions because i didn't use them as opportunities to pointlessly shit on my self. also it's just uncomfortable as fuck when you meet someone and they immediately start """joking""" about killing themselves so it goes both ways.
kinda the opposite for me tbh
when i do the ridiculous self aggrandising humour my friends wonder if i'm joking or having a manic episode lmao
Tryna fantasize about a future life together with a cutie on a dating app is made much harder when they keep insisting they are imminently going to die of self-loathing
"Please stop joking about killing yourself and constantly calling yourself a little piece of shit, we all love you for who you are now want you to stay alive"
"I can't believe you would insult me like this"
Depression is hilarious tbh
“we all love you for who you are now want you to stay alive”
Where does it say that?
If we're all going to take this virgin vs chad meme seriously then imo it really depends on the situation and whos doing it.
My friends and I were all genuinely depressed as hell in school. We made self deprecating "shoot myself in the head rn lol" jokes because we understood it was cope and found solidarity through gallows humor among our group. We all know each other well. On the same note, we made quite a few overly self confident jokes too in a sarcastic way so no, they dont magically make everyone happier.
However, when PMC normies randomly make suicide jokes to sound le edgy nd funneh, its fucked because (even though this is unconscious on their part) it belittles the experiences of people who genuinely have mental health problems through romanticization.
It needs to be quickly coupled with something showing you are clearly dumb as shit
For me it's tone of voice, body language, the audience being people who know you at least a little, and being willing to drop the act immediately if people seem unsure/ask for clarification.
This isn't even a joke, I did a lot of self deprecating humor when I was less confident and it made it a lot harder to build confidence
Why not just be genuine though
What's the point in getting people to like you if they only like a persona,
I've always hated that advice: "just be yourself." What if being yourself is what people don't like? Then being yourself is the worst advice ever.
Maybe people don't like you because you need to change.
Who said I was talking to people with clinical depression? To the rest of the world that's good advice. It worked for me. It turned out that being myself was the entire problem. I made changes, painful though they were, and life got better. Not a little bit better, a LOT better. Like night and day difference.
If you are clinically depressed you may ignore my advice.
the content of the meme was about suicidal jokes. depression is at least tangentially related if not the central topic of the meme you are posting indirectly in response to.
No, how dare you imply that I have any faults whatsoever. Literally ableism 1984.
Can confirm this works, switching over to the chad approach like fifteen years ago tremendously improved my self-confidence, overall social functioning, and people's opinions of me
From there after I developed real confidence it was easy to tone it down
Method: ask yourself, "What would a confident man do in this situation?" And then do that.
It works sometimes. Then that leads to real confidence. It's a life-saver. Literally.
Affected overconfidence screams insecurity, I'd rather you just tell me you're pathetic with your indoor voice.
The key word is absurd.
Say you ugly and you know it and accept it, it's fine to say "mmmhh goddamit I'm so fucking sexy damn I can barely stop myself from coating me in butter and dance"
I cant believe people are struggling over this.
Look, the post isnt that deep. If you mess something up, say "I'm the best in the world ever" instead of "oh shit, yeah I suck at this, you guys just do it better". It actually does help with your self-confidence and it is more fun for a group.
At least three of the accounts complaining are all new. I think it’s one person who took this personally and is now spamming accounts.
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i was asking for cited sources on the content of the meme, way to deflect.
