I never got into it and I feel like I'm missing a huge social part of my life. I've tried alcohol and it just tastes bad. Maybe if I had enough to get inebriated I'd feel different, but so far nothing about the experience of drinking has been good. Also I grew up around Baptists who don't have drinking in the culture, so maybe that's part of it? My parents never had alcohol in the house and there was never beer/wine at family gatherings. I never even saw a full glass of beer in person until I was like 23.

Bars are too loud and there's too much expectation to drink, parties have the same problem, drinking at home alone sounds sad. I go to concerts and I'm the only person without a huge glass of beer. People hand me drinks and I'm like "nah" and they get mega confused.

What do I do

Is this the opposite of a problem?

  • decentralized_polar@discuss.tchncs.de
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    8 months ago

    As a teen lots of good friends started drinking regular. Over time they changed their personality and behaviour, hobbies im bad ways. We lost contact and somehow couldn't connect again. Their lifes were too focused on taking drungs and don't missing out on life, yolo.

    Later, I found new friends, the nerd faction and connected easily. 7 Years later and we see each other regularly during the year.

    I researched the topic and found out that drinking during teen and young adult hood can change the psychologic structure of your brain and theirfore I hesitated each time someone offered me a drink, i stayed by my alcoholoc free beer and most of the time didn't feal preasured into drinking alcohol. I have enough problems and don't want to be addicted to anything. Jogging and swimming is far better in relaxing my brain after the normal stress during the week.

    For me, the party, dancing, talking about a shared topic, singing(karaoke) is the main part of the party atmosphere. If the main goal of the event is to get drunk and do shit, it's not interesting to me because I get bored. Also, I'm a bit introvert but if I'm around my friends, I get a lot more active and don't need the alcohol to socialize with new people. I would never visit a party where I know nobody, there should be at least a hobby or topic that I can relate to.

    edit: My tl;dr is, don't underestimate the psychological consequences of a few drinks and inform yourself on these. You should never feel pressured into drinking!