I never got into it and I feel like I'm missing a huge social part of my life. I've tried alcohol and it just tastes bad. Maybe if I had enough to get inebriated I'd feel different, but so far nothing about the experience of drinking has been good. Also I grew up around Baptists who don't have drinking in the culture, so maybe that's part of it? My parents never had alcohol in the house and there was never beer/wine at family gatherings. I never even saw a full glass of beer in person until I was like 23.
Bars are too loud and there's too much expectation to drink, parties have the same problem, drinking at home alone sounds sad. I go to concerts and I'm the only person without a huge glass of beer. People hand me drinks and I'm like "nah" and they get mega confused.
What do I do
Is this the opposite of a problem?
Firing at the hip here - I would say it's the opposite of a problem, yeah. The reason I say that tho, is I'm the sort of person that booze will completely take over. I stay away from it entirely now as well.
Have some complicated thoughts on drinking. Going to rehab was good for me tho. SOMETIMES I miss it, but usually it doesn't bother me at all.
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I'm really sorry you had to go through that since you're the sweetest person and you don't deserve any second of struggle like that
It was a state run facility, so extra horror stories.
Thanks for the kind words! At any rate, seems like you're doing well without drinking, so keep it up!
Alcohol can absolutely taste good. However, it takes time to figure out what you like and the good stuff is often quite expensive or takes skill to mix (cocktails). If you don't want to spend time and money figuring out what you like to drink that's totally fine. I might have one drink every three months these days. A lot of people need alcohol as a social lubricant to get over their anxieties and talk to people at parties. If you don't then that's cool too! To paper over awkwardness it's good to stand around with a beverage in your hand anyway, like a fizzy water.
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The one time I think I was actually intoxicated I just started crying at people and saying open personal stuff about my family abusing me, stuff I wouldn't normally say but normally I don't say anything to anyone at parties. It wasn't a good time. I don't think I'm the fun sort of drunk.
You can realize pleasant effects of alcohol without being drunk. I haven't been proper drunk in probably a decade now. Most people past 30 at social gatherings just have 1-2 drinks. It's really only college-age people that have this myopic focus on drinking to get drunk.
Recovering alcoholic here: You're not missing much.
Yeah it sucks, it's literally poison, has zero benefits and you have to continuously keep consuming it cause your body doesn't want it and immediately starts to filter it out
I certainly prefer weed and I pretty much never drink anymore cause of it 🤷🏿♂️
Totally agree. If drinking is the only activity during the party, I wouldn't go there either.
Most everyone doesn't like the taste of alcohol at first, it's an acquired taste. You just have to be peer pressured into drinking beer you hate like 25 times and then it just clicks, and suddenly it's good.
I never liked the taste of beer and similar drinks, but I absolutely loved the taste of hard liquor from the first time I had some. Brandy, whiskey, cocktails, all of that. Unfortunately, or fortunately depending on how you look at it, I can't drink anymore due to medications so I miss it a bit. But on the positive side, it's good for my health.
I seem to be in the minority here but I absolute LOVE drinking. Everything from the taste (beer is my preferred drink), to the atmosphere in bars/clubs, to, of course, being drunk. I'm not a heavy drinker, I have no family history of alcoholism, and I rarely get properly drunk, so I'm not really concerned about addiction or any adverse health effects.
To me it's just a great way to relax with friends, and a way to reduce my self-consciousness so I can more fully enjoy dancing and hanging out with total strangers.
IMO, it's much better than weed for the sole reason that weed (for me) makes it impossible to hold a conversation with someone because I either drift off in the middle of a thought or I become so lazy I have 0 interest in doing anything but sitting blank-minded on a couch.
I love drinking too, it’s just easier to talk to people about dumb things if you’ve all had a glass. It’s not essential though, just fun
You are much better off never getting into it. I had a father and grandfather that were abusive, sadistic alcoholics, I have an alcoholic brother in law that pisses away 300 dollars a week at bars. it destroys families and lives.
I hate drinking and people who drink in the same vein I despise people who smoke [mostly people who smoke shitty tobacco] indoors or in communal public spaces. It's also a huge turn off for me for any romantic partner/s.o.
rant about drinking
I never even saw a full glass of beer in person until I was like 23.
The first drunk person I interacted with was my Dad who was yelling random shit to my mom so yeah my opinion of people who drink isn't very high. It takes a huge part of me not to be a complete asshole to those who do. I went to a bar for the first time recently and it was a shitty experience where my peers kept doing expensive shots and dancing to extremely loud music that you couldn't even talk over.
Bars are a horrible social space and further proof of capitalism's ability to eradicate alternative healthier spaces and have workers drink themselves to death the same way smoking was ubiquitous (at least in America) until corpos couldn't hide the lung disease aspect of it.
At least I live in the US of A and not in the also shitty global north nations of Japan and South Korea where drinking is worshiped as ritual. So I can count myself lucky.
Just what I was going to say. I don't like liquor that much in my logical mind, but am still an alcoholic
It sucks because its the only way to numb yourself to hellworld, then it just creates another hellworld. Never thought I'd be that guy.
My girlfriend hates the taste of alcohol aswell. She enjoys being drunk but the process of getting there sucks ass. Recently she tried jello shots and those seem to be easier to get down
I dont think she has ever had enough to experience a hangover lmao. I do be hating jello shots tho
As a teen lots of good friends started drinking regular. Over time they changed their personality and behaviour, hobbies im bad ways. We lost contact and somehow couldn't connect again. Their lifes were too focused on taking drungs and don't missing out on life, yolo.
Later, I found new friends, the nerd faction and connected easily. 7 Years later and we see each other regularly during the year.
I researched the topic and found out that drinking during teen and young adult hood can change the psychologic structure of your brain and theirfore I hesitated each time someone offered me a drink, i stayed by my alcoholoc free beer and most of the time didn't feal preasured into drinking alcohol. I have enough problems and don't want to be addicted to anything. Jogging and swimming is far better in relaxing my brain after the normal stress during the week.
For me, the party, dancing, talking about a shared topic, singing(karaoke) is the main part of the party atmosphere. If the main goal of the event is to get drunk and do shit, it's not interesting to me because I get bored. Also, I'm a bit introvert but if I'm around my friends, I get a lot more active and don't need the alcohol to socialize with new people. I would never visit a party where I know nobody, there should be at least a hobby or topic that I can relate to.
edit: My tl;dr is, don't underestimate the psychological consequences of a few drinks and inform yourself on these. You should never feel pressured into drinking!
I hate drinking too. Unfortunately, that's never stopped me.
Always hated it myself, basically a teetotaller and haven't drank anything in literally years. It tastes bad, and it always seemed like the amount of booze you needed to drink would quickly outpace the capacity of my stomach, making for a poor experience.
