• SmokingFish [none/use name]
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        2 years ago

        A healthy sex life is good. Needing sex to feel balanced is disordered thinking, and that starts at a social level.

        :this:

        • wtypstanaccount04 [he/him]
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          2 years ago

          I do want sex. I'm technically an incel, because I'm a virgin, but otherwise some of the comments come across as a bit incel-y and self hating.

          • GnastyGnuts [he/him]
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            2 years ago

            I don't think being a virgin should count you in as an incel, and I don't like the way that the term incel has kind of devoured all ranges of loneliness and sexlessness.

            I don't think that sort of conflation is helpful, and overall I feel that the way culture -- particularly online -- has handled the phenomenon of inceldom has largely just made things worse, because of this shift in language that reinforces a lot of the attitudes towards sex and worth (of men specifically) that make people hate women as a means of coping with self-hatred.

            • wtypstanaccount04 [he/him]
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              2 years ago

              I completely agree. I think that "incel" has become a catch-all from anywhere from violent misogynists to normal virgins. It's a nasty term that should just be replaced with misogynist when applicable.