So the going method is to pretend until you fuck up, then adjust to not fuck up in that way?
A secret, even neurotypical people are doing this at all times.
Kind of like learning to ride a bike, except the bike is another person learning to ride a bike. It's complicated and easier for some people than others, but still a learning process that most people can get better at with time and practice.
Sometimes someone reacts negatively because they see your behavior as "non-normative", sometimes they react negatively because they're having a bad day, sometimes they react negatively because they don't know how to "act normal" either.
Usually after some missed social cue. Occassionally after i make some obvious bad decision
Just say, "You say I'm not being normal, yet you're policing my actions like some creepy weirdo that's all over my business. Curious." I jest, but seriously, people going around saying "that's not normal" like some cringey hall monitor or wannabe cop is itself a form of abnormality. If they're people who you don't care to have a friendly relationship with (ie not family, friends, or coworkers), use this to your advantage.
it really depends on the missed social cue. Some but not all social norms are in place for good reason
I've always been suspicious/skeptical whenever anyone...and I do mean ANYONE...who uses the term "normal" without defining the term.
That baby can hold a whole lot of bullshit in it.
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