I don't want to spread understanding to transphobes. Civil conversation isn't some divine right. There's plenty of resources out there for you to educate yourself with, if you truly wanted to "understand". There is no right to debate and I do not wish to debate my right to exist, nor my right to a respectful life. This attitude of yours is tiring, commonplace and helps facilitate transphobic policy by way of legitimising it as "just another viewpoint." A decade or two ago you would have wanted to debate climate change or gays getting married. What you are saying now is exactly what libs said back in the day of civil rights. "Well you don't have to be so rude about. If you could just civilly explain why you deserve to be treated like a human being, then we might consider it!"

Again if you truly wanted to understand you wouldn't complain about pronouns on a webforum, you wouldn't be demanding that someone make you understand. You would seek out the many many many scientific and academic sources that are readily available to you. If you need a place to start: Leslie Feinberg.

This is why your behaviour is getting called transphobic. You do not wish to understand, you wish to complain and deride.

If this makes you resent me, then good. I don't want transphobes to like me. I want them to suffer. (Inb4 "you're just like them" no I'm not. You can choose to stop being a transphobe)