The outlook that holds that these are two real and discrete categories that a person has a fixed place in does not at all square with my understanding - that gender is a culturally-specific, socially-reinforced product of patriarchal oppression - or with my experience. Also, although yeah its a big step, what you decide on for yourself in your heart is nowhere near as important as how you live your life I think. Being non-binary to me means living in a way that conciously rejects the gender binary. I think this is especially important if you are from the bad gender. And obviously I think everyone should be gay if at all possible