I guess the real question I have is how do practically live in the world like that though, and manage to have your own needs met? Cause it seems like it's impossible to really meet people at a level of reciprocity today. IDK, maybe this is just me.
Oh it is absolutely not just you. Don't expect reciprocity because most people won't give it to you. That's okay, you don't do it because of the response you receive - you do it because it's right and it will make you feel better to do the right thing. This goes double for us neurodivergents.
The flipside of this is that it actually helps you to advocate for your own needs more easily. When you consider someone's personhood and their full range of experiences, you realize that asking for your needs to be met will hardly register as a blip to the other person. Your weird behaviors that you are constantly trying to mask? They stop thinking about those things two seconds after you leave the room. And so you begin to lose a little bit of that rejection sensitivity because you're able to see that their responses largely have nothing to do with you.
Idk, this has just been my journey lately. Good luck, bud - it's a tough world for little things like us.
I guess the real question I have is how do practically live in the world like that though, and manage to have your own needs met? Cause it seems like it's impossible to really meet people at a level of reciprocity today. IDK, maybe this is just me.
Oh it is absolutely not just you. Don't expect reciprocity because most people won't give it to you. That's okay, you don't do it because of the response you receive - you do it because it's right and it will make you feel better to do the right thing. This goes double for us neurodivergents.
The flipside of this is that it actually helps you to advocate for your own needs more easily. When you consider someone's personhood and their full range of experiences, you realize that asking for your needs to be met will hardly register as a blip to the other person. Your weird behaviors that you are constantly trying to mask? They stop thinking about those things two seconds after you leave the room. And so you begin to lose a little bit of that rejection sensitivity because you're able to see that their responses largely have nothing to do with you.
Idk, this has just been my journey lately. Good luck, bud - it's a tough world for little things like us.