• HoChiMaxh [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    Isn't this sort of tautological? Like obviously if you have more restrictions on anything it's harder to stay within those bounds and if you have no restrictions you can't go out of bounds.

    • AcidSmiley [she/her]
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      2 years ago

      Most people have some restrictions. You can't fucntion in society without some restraint on your sexuality unless you're ace. Consent is the main one outside of conservative / religious sexual ethics, and if you're familiar with BDSM and poly culture, you'll find that pulling more permissiveness and promiscuousness and kinky shit off in a wholesome way requires to put a lot of thought into finding out what exactly your partner(s) consent to. My experience when hanging out with people from these crowds was never that they're just freewheeling lunatics, it's just that they've found ways to guide and direct their urges instead of repressing them.

      • Frank [he/him, he/him]
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        2 years ago

        Kinksters invent kinky scenarios like free wheeling lunatics who fear neither god nor death.

        Responsible kinksters work through those scenarios with their play partners like bomb technicians trying to defuse a nuke.

    • CrimsonSage [any]
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      2 years ago

      Not necessarily. Like if you have a few boundaries you might find it easier to maintain those few. As compared to a ton and then just being like yolo I broke one let's break em all!

    • teddiursa [she/her]
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      2 years ago

      I think it’s that people without those restrictions tend to actually have an easier time staying within the bounds of what the conservatives’ restrictions are.