So this video popped up on my YouTube feed. WARNING: copoganda, murder, discussion of domestic violence. The tldr is that the woman accidentally killed her boyfriend, the boyfriend got arrested for a few domestic violence calls so 🤷, but then the woman goes completely white lady on the situation and denies any responsibility and argues every point like a 5 year old. Her lawyers all quit because they can't stand her, and people are chiming in the comments that they knew her IRL and that she was a massive a-hole in her town. One lawyer quit over professional differences, and other lawyers quit for different reasons.

I sorta think that maybe this woman sucks, but locking her in a box for 40 years isn't gong to help anything.

I will mention that I've been burnt hard by narcissists in the past. But once I've learned to spot them, they're just often sad. There's a few in my various communities, and we all just sorta manage and ignore them. Oh, maybe I'm wrong, but they often seem more rich than the general population.

    • ButtBidet [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      I wish more people said this. Is there anything else you wish other people knew? Cuz honestly I don't have any open narcissists in my life right now.

      • GaveUp [she/her]
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        2 years ago

        My answer was just a joke, I never want support from others or pity unless I'm trying to be manipulative

        My own opinion on personality disorders, particularly cluster b disorders as somebody with borderline, antisocial, and narcissistic traits and having dated somebody with full blown BPD diagnoses is that it is both OK to hate them as well as support and pity them if you have the heart to

        BPD and narcissism traits are almost always developed as a self defence mechanism from extreme trauma. Generally broken homes with verbal, physical, sexual abuse, lack of affection, neglectful parenting, etc.

        Regardless of whatever reasons though, the person in question is still responsible for their own words and actions. Having being hurt themselves does not give them any sort of pass to hurt others as well for their own selfish reasons. It's still up to them to get help and improve themselves

        So if you're kind enough, I do think that some leeway can be given if they're genuinely trying to get better and are genuinely remorseful for the harm they've done to others

        • SaniFlush [any, any]
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          2 years ago

          If you don’t mind me asking, what inspired you to support leftism? Right wing ideology seems like it would be an easy path to power, and there’s very little institutional pressure to lean left anywhere in the English speaking world.

          • GaveUp [she/her]
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            2 years ago

            So at first it was because

            • This is where the truth lies. Even a kid I saw through the imperialistic xenophobic propaganda against Russia, China, and even DPRK though I never understood it to a deep level. It feeds my ego so hard that I'm correct. And I'm the type that's obsessed with finding out the truth behind everything. I'm naturally extremely curious

            • Personal spite. Was one point about to get retirement money. Not powerful or influential money but just retire for life very comfortably money. Then I got completely devoured by powerful and influential money because that's how capitalism works

            • My home life and father also went down a bad mental trajectory after 2008

            • I have a victim complex. Feels good to be able to blame capitalism lmao

            • Am a minority

            • Antisocial symptoms in the imperial core means that I'm automatically antisocial against a liberal capitalistic society

            • Grew up with an average family income in a wealthy suburb neighborhood

            • Feeling of extreme moral superiority

            I will say that over time, as I've learned more about history, geopolitics, and economic exploitation, that I have genuinely learned conditional empathy for the exploited. My heart genuinely hurts for those in the global south and all the victims of economic inequality that I see in my day to day life. The ones working shitty minimum wage jobs, the homeless, etc. My automatic response to panhandling used to be ignore and not treat them as humans and now it's to enjoy a chat with them and help them out in whatever way I can

            I've also developed a pretty strong moral compass

            • SaniFlush [any, any]
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              2 years ago

              Cool. When the world around us improves, our own lives improve- I can see the value of that.

          • Shoegazer [he/him]
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            2 years ago

            It could be that some just see the logic and want to benefit from socialism without caring about others

            • GaveUp [she/her]
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              2 years ago

              If you're curious I posted a somewhat detailed response above

              Thankfully I benefit greatly from Western imperialism