So this video popped up on my YouTube feed. WARNING: copoganda, murder, discussion of domestic violence. The tldr is that the woman accidentally killed her boyfriend, the boyfriend got arrested for a few domestic violence calls so 🤷, but then the woman goes completely white lady on the situation and denies any responsibility and argues every point like a 5 year old. Her lawyers all quit because they can't stand her, and people are chiming in the comments that they knew her IRL and that she was a massive a-hole in her town. One lawyer quit over professional differences, and other lawyers quit for different reasons.

I sorta think that maybe this woman sucks, but locking her in a box for 40 years isn't gong to help anything.

I will mention that I've been burnt hard by narcissists in the past. But once I've learned to spot them, they're just often sad. There's a few in my various communities, and we all just sorta manage and ignore them. Oh, maybe I'm wrong, but they often seem more rich than the general population.

  • TheLepidopterists [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    Idk if she has an actual personality disorder, certainly nothing diagnosed but my mother was pretty psychologically/religiously abusive, manipulative and controlling in both my youth and when I was a young adult. It was worse for my little sister, and at this time I am pretty low contact with her and my sister is no contact with her.

    I absolutely pity our mother, and she constantly puts herself into pitiable situations and every other month or so I have a phone call with her, which is pretty emotionally draining, and mostly is her complaining about conflicts with the rest of our family.

    My sister I think might hate her, and while I can't bring myself to feel that strongly, I also don't blame her for it. Both of our partners I'm pretty sure hate her, because they don't have the conflicted feelings of having been raised by her but have seen the impact she's had on my sister and me; can't blame them for it either.

    For someone who has never been personally harmed/had a loved one personally harmed by her if they hated her I'd find it pretty irrational I think, but I also think it's cruel to tell someone it's wrong to hate their abuser because the abuse stems from a disorder.

    I don't have any thoughts on the lady in the OP though, if she killed her abuser that's fine you know?