Just the weirdest fucking thing from the group that thinks pride is about grooming kids.
That is certainly the easiest explanation, without even getting into the type of brain that thinks like this. You're brushing it, lady. Why and how would she run to the other room to show you?
Potential explanations for this behavior:
- Confirmation bias
- The father is quicker to complement the daughter
- The mother is quicker to criticize the daughter
- The mother already knows how pretty the hair is because she was the one brushing it
- The mother was taking pictures of the process and seemed distracted
- The father participates in less care tasks (brushing hair can uncomfortable and boring and explaining why it’s necessary can be upsetting, so if the mother is taking on all that work, the father gets off the hook implicitly and doesn’t suffer the negative backlash)
- The father is normally the one who brushes her hair
- This behavior is modeled by the mother showing off her hair to the father
Note that none of these explanations involve the innate sexual preferences and desires of literal children
Yes exactly. A good question to her would be: What falsifiable data would convince you otherwise?
When i was a little kid and my dad would wash me in the bath he would shampoo my hair into funny shapes and then I would put on a towel and run to show my stepmom
I did this because she was the only one who hadn't seen how funny my hair looked, not because of some bizarre Oedipus complex
Probably because fathers tend to enforce the most rigid gender roles in the household and because her father only gives her positive attention when she acts "like a girl"
Cis society is built on passively affirming people’s assigned gender. It’s built into everything from clothing to basic social norms to medical care.
I try so hard to compliment my children regularly about things that they’ve expressed value for. I complimented one of them today that they were drawing eyes “really rectangularly”. Do I value that? No. But it made them really excited.
Posting this exact same story, but with a boy child who wants to show his mom a cool bug.
If it's so innate, why does the child have long hair? Is it perhaps the parents enforcing a gender role upon a child and through the interaction continue to enforce a gender role upon the child?
Sometimes it doesn't take much to really impact someone. There was a story I remember hearing about how a family had tried to raise their kids without specific gendered expectations and the son was really into something traditionally feminine. It was only after his friends came over and gave him a weird look over it that suddenly he immediately dropped the interest because he was told very clearly through the reactions of his peers that what he was doing was "wrong." I imagine the exact same thing has happened with this child. From my own personal experience, as a child I had a high pitched singing voice and one day I was singing in the car because I loved to sing and my aunt laughed and laughed and laughed at how girly I sounded. I can barely sing in front of people to this day because even after coming out as trans and realizing that it was bullshit, the experience has made me deeply uncomfortable singing near people lest they laugh at me again, though this time for having too deep of a voice I suppose.
Normal people: “
thank you comrade daughter for wanting me to be part of your life and share your happiness with me.”
White conservatives: “
did you know my daughter has a crush on me? She kept telling me to brush her hair…”
My kid does this with my wife, and myself, and sometimes both of us at the same time.
Kids show off to their parents.
Don't make this weird.
Taking a normal parent-child interaction and making it sound as creepy as possible
Also worth noting that conservatives consume mock step-sibling porn.
Wait I don't understand the masculine feminine dynamics as innate part
Is she saying they because her 3 year old child mentioned Dad over any of her female family members, that only heterosexuality is valid?
I think she's getting the innate from her kid's age, as if she's too young to have been influenced by gender roles from society thus making it innate.
And yeah, I think like, look my daughter wanted to show off her hair and dresses to a man? I believe. Obviously this is very difficult to parse.
I can't tell if I'm too dumb or too smart for not being able to understand this lol
It's so weird that they were brushing their kid's hair, had this fuckin bananas thought, then took a picture and overlayed said bananas thought in text over said hair. Just a completely different type of brain lol.
1 million hours in MS Paint
AT LAST I CAN BEAT THE WORLD OVER THE HEAD WITH HOW I HAVE INCULCATED THE GENDER NORM IN MY CROTCHSPAWN