I remember talking with a boomer family member, and he sort of timidly revealed that he thought most of the women he'd slept with didn't think they were allowed to enjoy sex or relax. He didn't know what to do with that and clearly found it unsettling. Like, even if they knew the problem was there, what tools did they even have surrounded by that society?
And some days it feels like we're headed back there with the recent manifestations of neo-puritanism clawing back at gains made over decades where women are finally allowed to be horny, to enjoy sex, and to demand good sex.
Right? Sex is forbidden, but if it's allowed it has to be violent, shameful, bad, mechanical, or all four. You can fuck but you're not allowed to let anyone see you enjoy fucking.
Most of these were ways to get around the Hayes code when showing sex (or queer people just existing) for decades, and it shapes how Hollywood makes movies until this day because art under capitalism is believed to have to stick to conventions to work as a commodity and Hollywood is particularly bad in that regard.
I remember talking with a boomer family member, and he sort of timidly revealed that he thought most of the women he'd slept with didn't think they were allowed to enjoy sex or relax. He didn't know what to do with that and clearly found it unsettling. Like, even if they knew the problem was there, what tools did they even have surrounded by that society?
And some days it feels like we're headed back there with the recent manifestations of neo-puritanism clawing back at gains made over decades where women are finally allowed to be horny, to enjoy sex, and to demand good sex.
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Right? Sex is forbidden, but if it's allowed it has to be violent, shameful, bad, mechanical, or all four. You can fuck but you're not allowed to let anyone see you enjoy fucking.
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Most of these were ways to get around the Hayes code when showing sex (or queer people just existing) for decades, and it shapes how Hollywood makes movies until this day because art under capitalism is believed to have to stick to conventions to work as a commodity and Hollywood is particularly bad in that regard.