For me it would be that lifting can take time. It's okay to start with light weights and it's okay that getting bigger will take more than three months. Sure, pushing yourself is good to make progress, but everyone has their limits.
Also, lifting can be for more than just getting bigger. In the beginning I was hyper focussed on getting more muscular and it led to me taking awful homemade protein/caloric shakes which cannot be healthy long term. It took me pretty long to understand that this way of training was not what I wanted. Luckily I now know that I want to focus on strength and stamina and that size comes second.
How about you?
Never be afraid to ask for help. This goes for all physical activity, always seek out proper form & technique from a reputable source.
For example: The proper way to squat is to have your feet straight shoulder width apart, put the bar on your shoulder blades, stick your ass out, slightly bend at the waist, keep your back straight, and go down until your legs bend @ a 90 degree angle like you're sitting in a chair.
When I started squatting I had my feet wide and angled outward, the bar across my neck, ass bended in, back curved extremely inward, and was going way lower than I should've. Plus I had more weight than I should've started with. I bet it was funny as hell watching me do squats lol but it royally fucked my neck/back up. Moral of the story is figure out the proper technique BEFORE doing physical activity.
Not a great example since squat form varies with a person's anatomy so the way you describe is not necessarily "the proper form" (and to be honest I'm a bit worried by it). Feet position and angle will depend on your anatomy and squat depth will depend on your mobility. Squat university has some good videos for helping out with finding the proper squat form for each individual
Wow, youtube told me I'm wrong?! Well that settles it then. I'll be sure to go tell every athlete, coach, and professional I've ever worked with that they're wrong too! In the future I'll be sure to cross reference my medical advice with social media, that was my bad. Thank you invent_the_future for your great insight, God Bless.
Check this out, this guy really shows you how to do it! https://yewtu.be/watch?v=vPPk0QqQW4k
Jokes aside, don't get your medical advice from grifters or strangers on the internet kids. That includes me, I was just using my case as an example. Point is to go ask a few professionals IRL that do this for a living how to do whatever it is you're doing, then cross-reference the information.
not saying to get advice from the internet, just sharing a readily-available source that's quite reliable and is consistent with precisely the advice I've personally received from professionals IRL
the guy himself is a physical therapist but whatever, be as condescending as you want to be
From what I've been told that method will at best work out the wrong muscles, and at worst cause serious injuries like hip damage or blowing out your knee. Like you can go lower than 90 degrees, but going too low will cause issues. Same with the feet angle/width thing, sure you can get away with it for awhile, but over time you can cause strain and damage. Maybe I'm wrong though, maybe I really have just been talking to the wrong people. There's a wide range of opinions on this stuff, so the best you can do is talk to a wide variety of people and try to come up with a consensus the best you can.
I remember time ago downloading (and then losing) a pdf file of Mark Rippetoe's Starting Strength, thanks to which I discovered that I was being a massive fool by facing my back against the squat rack, for which I had to walk backwards in order to put the bar back on the hooks without being able to see them. Terribly dangerous.
Exactly, you can jack yourself up really bad quickly by doing the wrong thing. Especially when it comes to things like squats. It doesn't hurt to ask a reputable source (COUGH not youtube COUGH) to figure out if you're doing it right. It'll save your body and give you a better workout in the end.