this is like saying "it's very imperialist and racist to criticize the illegality of homosexuality in the middle east"

ik that's a hyperbolic example, but you can't expect everyone to respect a value/practice that can be reactionary and infringe on human rights. not to blame individual chinese people for being fine with it, and it might not be a big deal, but that doesn't mean we can't call out the practice regardless of the country.