Also I find the idea that I’d discard of a guy if he doesn’t have reasource really fucking insulting.

Yeah this pretty much. The way some people view relationships through some pseudo transactional lens really infuriates me. Like oviously don't be a complete deadbeat or anything, but it's a human relationship, this isn't build a person where someone handpicks the traits they want from someone in exchange for their own. Like what happened to spending time and building relationships (both romantic and platonic) with others because you enjoy their company and have fun with them?