It's 100% untrue. Men are beautiful. You are beautiful. Believe in yourself and remember that the most attractive thing in the world is a kind heart and that starts with being kind to yourself.
Don't let the world make you feel ugly, they're just trying to sell you shit.
5'6", acne scars and Indian isn't going to get you anywhere in life.
It's great to stress positivism, but come on, not all men are created equally. Kind hearted men are often perceived as 'nice guys' and that does them no favors at all.
This seems like almost incelish. What’s up with that kind of posting being here? Reminds me of a forum we used to make fun of on inceltears called lookism. They were a bunch of self hating Asians and Indians too who worshipped white women and wanted to be white. I don’t think it’s particularly healthy thinking to take those western beauty standards to heart, it’s driven some of those dudes insane
Don’t be those guys
Western beauty standards are a trip, my man.
Don’t get sucked into them.
You’re short. You’re brown. And yeah, some people are gonna not be attracted to you because of those reasons. Which sucks. And, yeah, those reasons are influenced by western media and the typical tropes associated with Indians/all brown foreigners.
But you’ll definitely find someone. And that’s all that matters. Keep working on yourself. Never forget, you’re a leftist. Before anything else. And that means looking at the material reasons behind everything. Don’t fall into ideological nonsense.
There's a big difference between 'nice' and 'kind.' 'Nice guys' are generally pretty self-centered from my personal experience. It's better to be rude and focused on others' needs than it is to be polite and focused on oneself.
In other words, shut the fuck up. You are beautiful. You may be short and Indian (who cares about race except racists?) but you can still get fit, dress well, and maybe even dabble in makeup. You can trade in your attitude for a better one. Its easy to take comfort in pessimism and hopelessness, but being brave is sexier.
In fact, the attitude is the main thing and you could even skip the rest if you fix that.
Oh, I'm not Indian and where did I say I was? But it's a situation many real-live American men face. You may substitute any of society's groups that incite laughter when presented as attractive or sexy.
TBH this sounds suspiciously similar to the right-wing "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" rhetoric. Go fix yourself and things will be fine!
If you're not Indian, you're first post makes you're attitude look even shittier. Some people laugh for shitty reasons. So what? Does that mean one should give up and prove them correct?
This is the bloomer comm, love yourself and find people who love you.
These are real problems faced by real men and no amount of sunshine is going to change it. What would anyone do in a situation like that? Pulling yourself up by your bootstraps is a discredited attitude.
You can get help from others too, but your personal attitude is critical. Get that doomerism out of the bloomer comm, friend.
Regarding you're claim that this is bootstraps, this isn't about fixing or excusing systemic poverty. It's about personal development.
I know a short Asian guy who had similar laments to you. He still got a girlfriend, and he has a loving and confident attitude.
Yeah, but why bring race into it at all and why single out Indian men? As I said, I wouldn’t be surprised if you frequent lookism or some site like it. You have a really bitter attitude like a lot of the posters there seem to have .
White people aren’t some superior group of gorgeous tall demigods
its not telling you to bootstrap, its saying that you're already fine the way you are and to not let other people dictate how you see yourself.
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I dunno, none of those things are what I think about when looking at a dude.
"Nice guys" are a different thing. They aren't kind hearted, they pretend to be kind to get things from people and people can smell the lie from a mile away and resent it. Honest kindness is very attractive.
9 times out of ten I'm attracted to a guy because we have similar interests and he's chill to be around. Thats the most important thing to me.
i'm 5'6" 💅 you gotta learn to make it work
Absolute truth 😤
Also I feel like I haven't seen your username around lately heyhi 👋
hiiiii :meow-hug:
So glad to have you around, there was a post the other day where you talk about users you like and I realized I hadn't seen either of the femboys around lately, I was distraught! :meow-hug:
where have all the femboys goooone...
and where are all the mo-ooods
No song posting after this comment, that's reddit shit
So much of what’s perceived as attractiveness is honestly just swag. Confidence is really difficult to fake but if you love yourself and feel confident on the inside I swear to god it works like a magnet. I agree with you about the nice guy thing — I think where that goes wrong is that men who don’t think they deserve love think that kindness is all they have to offer. Anything that is rooted in insecurity will have the opposite effect of what you want it to have. In order to attract people who also love themselves you need to make sure you do whatever you can to love yourself first. I don’t think that it’s essential that you love everything about your appearance but you learning to appreciate it enough to rock it will take you most of the way. As time goes on more of the things you didn’t like about yourself you’ll come to appreciate because they are what make you you.
This is a great comment.
:Care-Comrade: Thank you! It's something I believe to be true with every fiber of my being and really wish more people knew.