CrookedSerpent [she/her]

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Cake day: October 22nd, 2020

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  • I've never worn makeup in my life and I am stealth, and Im friends with other trans women who pass without makeup as well. HRT really does work, but honestly, passing is about way more than just HRT or lazer or makeup, or behaviors, or voice training. It's a skill and the only way to get better at it is to do it and do it for long periods of time. Trying your best to pass through all those methods above at all times for long periods of times WILL yield results, much more than just doing HRT and waiting.





  • I've told men I'm trans after being intimate before and if anything that just makes them less likely to lose interest, tho I do admit I absolutely could have just gotten lucky and dodged a bunch of bullets, cuz yeah I know that some men will respond violently.

    I really do get wanting to remain stealth. Getting to just live life as a "normal" person for the first time In your entire life is kinda indescribable, and I've definitely had periods of time where I wanted to do only that. There are trade offs tho, as I'm sure you know, and it's up to you to decide if the price is really worth it.


  • Dating apps as a stealth trans girl dating straight guys is dreadful. I've met the people I have through random life circumstance mostly, just being out in life doing things and meeting cool people. And like, I'm not going to tell you how to live your life, but I've told A LOT of men, many of whom I didn't know very well, that I am trans after they have shown interest, and while a significant portion of them dropped interest immediately or reacted with shock, I never felt like I was in danger. Especially if this is a guy who seems cool, who's a mutual friend, Is it really worth letting fear control your life this much? I don't know the answer, but I certainly don't live my life that way.


  • Idk, I've also dated quite a few cis/hey guys while stealthing (at first) and I've honestly been surprised by how the majority of men are kinda fine about it. Its definitely a problem with getting serious with cis het guys, but almost every guy who's been interested in me before I told them I was trans was still interested after, albeit with a lot of baggage.. lol

    Maybe I have just been lucky, has that not been your experience?