frompeaches [she/her,they/them]

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Cake day: July 29th, 2020

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  • my hot take is that liberal feminists are not wrong that performing femininity is expensive, awful and dysphoria inducing. (I'm not talking about only gender dysphoria but even other forms of body dysphoria)

    I am glad that liberal feminists talk about it and thus gave me the tools to recognise and deal with it. The left sometimes fails at this kinda stuff badly.





  • A condition of friendship is the abdication of power over another, indeed the abdication even of the wish for power over one another. And one is drawn to it not by need but by choice. If love is about the bliss of primal unfreedom, friendship is about the complicated enjoyment of human autonomy. As soon as a friend attempts to control a friend, the friendship ceases to exist. But until a lover seeks to possess his beloved, the love has hardly begun. Where love is all about the juggling of the power to hurt, friendship is about creating a space where power ceases to exist. There is a cost to this, of course. Friends will never provide what lovers provide: the ultimate resort, that safe space of repose, that relaxation of the bedsheets. But they provide something more reliable, and certainly less painful. They provide an acknowledgement not of the child within but of the adult without; they allow for an honesty which doesn’t threaten pain and criticism which doesn’t imply rejection. They promise not the bliss of the womb but the bracing adventure of the world. They do not solve loneliness, yet they mitigate it.

    https://www.brainpickings.org/2014/04/23/love-undetectable-andrew-sullivan-friendship/



  • frompeaches [she/her,they/them]tomainPopular Opinion Thread
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    4 years ago

    Nope not what I ever implied, just that there's no functional difference between a pig and a dog, but you'd be filled with horror at eating a dog. They usually go on about news stories about dog abuse but bat an eye at animal abuse in slaughterhouses.


  • frompeaches [she/her,they/them]tomainPopular Opinion Thread
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    4 years ago

    I struggle with most – the people who aren't vegetarian and own pets, I hate the fact that you can own pets, the ones who constantly put in effort to lock their pets up and the ones who generally don't care about the well-being of the pet outside of how many cuddles it generates for them and give it up when it becomes badly behaved.