this is so real, I didn't mind being gendered male until I transitioned far enough to be more often gendered female (more common, bc people tend to assume binary gender) or ??? (which is its own flavor of funny, like I'm giving off a non-binary aura or something).
"pay us to not harass you" is honestly the epitome of Americanism. thank you though, that's good advice, and might be worthwhile to avoid the stress and embarrassment.