So sorry this happened comrade. Feel free to dm if you want to vent. Like others said- this isn’t selfish of you and it’s not your fault. You deserve the space to explore this for yourself & I hope you are able to soon, and eventually can find a little peace. In the meantime, try and be kind to yourself :cat-trans:

:sleepi: hope you all get some good rest!

The biggest thing about being trans isn’t really about the gender switch

This makes a lot of sense and is something I think I've been getting hung up on. I do think i have some sort of mental block when it comes to nonbinary identity, especially in regards to afab folks who continue to present traditionally feminine. Terfy brainworms somewhere in the back of my mind go "ok, so this is woman-lite...?" And i've felt bad about thinking that, but haven't ever really taken the time to parse it out or truly challenge that internal voice, since my outward actions have always been in line with my values (ie- I don't misgender my they/them friends, respect their identities etc.). But it's kind of fucked up and invalidating of me to have those thoughts, and while it shouldn't have taken me having an afab nonbinary crisis myself to address them, I'm glad I finally am. Thanks for your comment.

Thank you for this- thinking about approaching it in the spirit of fun and exploration definitely helps...

For me, if I could press a button, itd make me a trans woman. but I’m already a cis woman? So it’s not so much about the womanhood for me I guess, but something else. idk what to make of it. like, I’m pretty comfortable here in this spot, but it’s also just… something I can’t stop thinking about??

I appreciate your comment! I saw your most recent post, but hadn’t seen the original. I’m going to check out some of the resources people left in the comments there. Sending solidarity 🫶🏻

Thank you, I think I definitely need to reflect on this gatekeepy sort of thought I’m having about it.

No real advice, but sending healthy vibes & solidarity. Easier said than done, but try not to stress too much. Take precautions for your partner, take care of yourself, and test in the next couple days if you can. It’s really just a waiting game now and it sucks.

I’m coming off the tail end of my second infection, and this post is very much echoing what my past week has been like. I feel your worries. If the anecdote helps, even though I got it, my partner has managed to test negative the whole time, despite sharing a household. I hope you manage to have avoided it, or it’s at least mild otherwise. good luck comrade :Care-Comrade:

Good boy Basil! 😭 :Care-Comrade:

The cronch is the cabbage’s best attribute!!

Lol okay but I would actually love to be able to buy half or quarter sized cabbages sometimes. Cooking an entire cabbage yields sooo much. If I didn’t have a partner, I’d never be able to get through all the leftovers myself.

Be still my DIY heart! I can’t wait until I have a little garage or shed all to myself and I can do stuff like this. I built an entertainment console last year and having the entire dining room be a furniture construction zone for 3 weeks was… less than ideal

tysm 🥲

Ah yes. Love to read the good news whilst laid up in bed with my second bout of covid. :angery: