I met some long time friends for pizza and beer tonight and i thought it was a fun night but right before we parted ways the two of them held an intervention with me. They said i was bringing up "socialist stuff" too much and it was making them depressed. They said to keep the conversation exclusively to things like games and anime. That if i didnt stop they didnt want to be friends anymore. Have you guys/gals/nonbinary pals experienced something like this before?

  • BynarsAreOk [none/use name]
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    3 years ago

    I'd be careful with this feel good logic, there is quite a difference between cutting relations with a distant reactionary cousin and versus your boomer parents for example. Everyone has their own circumstances but don't put too much faith that fragile family relationships are worth your trouble, if anything I'd say that is just a path to holding yourself hostage to them and their views.

    • came_apart_at_Kmart [he/him, comrade/them]
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      3 years ago

      as someone with plenty of dysfunction in the family, I've gotten a lot out of the subverted trope:

      "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." (the family we forge in life is worth more than the one we are born into).

    • aqwxcvbnji [none/use name]
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      3 years ago

      there is quite a difference between cutting relations with a distant reactionary cousin and versus your boomer parents for example.

      Sure, that's true. I assumed he was talking abouthis close relatives.

      I do think that the idea that we can easily cut people from our lives (like is propagated in r/relationship_advise, for example, but which is spread much broader), is a sign of something unhealthy. We're social animals, it's not normal behaviour for us to just cut people away like it's nothing. It's a sign of a form of stress and alienation of our natural behaviour, imposed on us by the harsh conditions of capitalist relations of production.