This started as a comment in the megathread but got long so I decided to make it it’s own post. Obviously covid makes this different, but for general purposes, I’ve said it before and I’ll repeat it till I die, please don’t homeschool your kids

I was homeschooled from early in elementary school until halfway through my sophomore year of high school. The reason I joined high school is because I was so depressed and lonely I wanted to die, and I knew my education had been neglected for years, so I begged my parents to put me in public school. Basically the only thing my parents kept up with was math and that’s only because they had me in online math classes.

And of the homeschooling parents I knew, mine were some of the best ones as far as actually educating their children go. Mild neglect with some basic math and science from atheist parents is worlds better than the psycho Christian “education” some people I knew got.

But even with all that the education was the smaller problem. Turns out math is the only thing that actually builds on itself over time in the American education system, everything else just restarts but slightly more complicated when you get to high school.

The bigger problem was how alone I was and how stunted it made my social skills, something I’m still dealing with now and I’m in fucking grad school. Kids and teenagers need to be around people their own age. I straight up did not learn how to function properly in social situations. I almost got the shit beat out of me in my first week in high school for calling a football player a dumbass. If adults said things to me that were mildly accusatory I’d cry, but also I had no concept of not saying shit so I’d call out adults for any minor system issue or other problem completely out of their control which most people just found annoying. I had so much trouble understanding fairly basic social interactions.

My younger brother was homeschooled from after kindergarten all the way until his senior year of high school, which he then dropped out of. He was more stunted both socially and educationally than I was, and started smoking weed nearly every day when he was around 15 to cope. It also definitely didn’t help that my whole family is chock full of mental illness. I think he did just start at community college though, which I’m super proud of.

So yeah. Rant over. Don’t home school your kids. It’s shitty.

  • Llituro [he/him, they/them]
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    3 years ago

    I’m in fucking grad school.

    Well, that tends to lower the bar at least. But for real, you're 100% right. I made my original r*ddit account to shit on homeschooling. My elementary school best friend got homeschooled for religious reasons (homophobia) for middle and high school. He didn't learn shit, now he's a :the-pigs: :sadness-abysmal:.

    • ClimateChangeAnxiety [he/him, they/them]
      hexagon
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      3 years ago

      Yeah I was worried that’d slightly hurt the point I was trying to make lol. But I only got to this point through a lot of luck, sliding in on the barest minimum qualifications, and a lot of work to dig myself out of the hole my parents put me in, and I have the worst imposter syndrome of anyone I know

      And I’m sorry about your friend, that blows. I feel bad for the guy.

      • Llituro [he/him, they/them]
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        3 years ago

        And I’m sorry about your friend, that blows. I feel bad for the guy.

        It's unfortunate. He wasn't doomed to be a pig, it was just a natural outcome of what was normalized and encouraged in his deeply nationalistic household.

        • ClimateChangeAnxiety [he/him, they/them]
          hexagon
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          3 years ago

          Oh god the hounding parents are so bad, and again compared to my friends I had it good. They set sky high expectations for me education wise but basically just said “Idk figure it out 🤷‍♂️“ which is not helpful