Bottom text... Well who the fuck knows lmao. Can't wait to requestion my entire sexuality again once I've figured out whatever the fuck my gender identity is to me...
it's a big question! there's no harm in taking your time to figure it out
Thanks, I needed that a bit. Quite overwhelming and disappointing tbh, I guess I really did lowkey resist it and subconsciously know to an extent, because of all identity/opinion realizations to have to proclaim to the world for you to enjoy about yourself, being transgender always seemed just about the most difficult and scary. Welp
This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning, woke up with a bunch of self doubt, so much appreciated - means a lot ❤️
I'm happy to have helped! just remember that there are a bunch of us on here to help you figure out what works for you
It's kind of hard to work out your sexuality when you arent sure of your gender comrade! Dont beat yourself up! The fact that you are questioning and feeling unsure about it is a good sign you are working through some things.
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It took me a long time to figure myself out, and then due to personal problems it wasn't until recently I actually started to transition. There's no shame in taking time to feel certain, and I hope you find happiness with whatever answer you find.
Technically you could describe yourself as NB, Genderfluid and Trans all at once, maybe thats not super helpful but its fine to not really have a perfect word for it, and its absolutely fine to take time to figure it out or for it to shift and change as time passes.
Ok so question then - as I take the time to figure that out, if I don't think anyone in my life is going to react well at all while Im still figuring it out and I don't want to tell them multiple times different things, should I continue to hide it or will that not help me at all in the long run? That last bit is experience from previous repressions lol
It's kinda all up to how safe you feel and what your surroundings are like, but I think a lot of people in this situation find it helpful to find one person in particular they can trust and to first start talking to that one person about it while figuring stuff out, then when things feel more figured out and secure to come out to more people. Being out to one person can help relieve some of the pressure of feeling like you've gotta hide yourself and not reveal things.
Sometimes it might also help to find a therapist or some other mental health professional to talk to, a lot of people I know find it easier to open up and talk about this stuff to someone who feels neutral rather than someone they've got a lot of history between. Though Im also located in Europe where stuff like that is probably significantly cheaper so that might not be a good option.
Therapy is my desired next step. I had a therapist for a year or two for very hard to pin down sexual issues of mine (LMAO LOOKING BACK) and have told him that I'd like to talk even though he has a full client list, even just once, just to hear if this is some insane brain break compared to my previous self, or if this makes sense (it does...this feels too much like waking up out of denial like last time 😑 )
Hopefully you can get there relatively quickly, I know how long the wait can be for mental health stuff sometimes, good luck with everything!
