Arguably the most important thing to know about top/bottom or dom/sub relationships (other than the omnipresent "safe, sane, consensual") is that ultimately the person on bottom has all the actual power because the top/dom can't do shit unless they agree to it.
Obviously it's healthier to think of it as an equivalent relationship, but I feel like that phrasing makes it clear to shitheads who wants to dom what's actually going on.
Arguably the most important thing to know about top/bottom or dom/sub relationships (other than the omnipresent "safe, sane, consensual") is that ultimately the person on bottom has all the actual power because the top/dom can't do shit unless they agree to it.
Obviously it's healthier to think of it as an equivalent relationship, but I feel like that phrasing makes it clear to shitheads who wants to dom what's actually going on.
I'm a top and it's the same thing with oral. The one performing oral is holding all the cards and I'm just along for the ride. :edgeworth-shrug:
Designating the size and rules of the playing field is important and also a part of the fun.