I'm pretty sure my dad drunkenly bought me a bonsai tree. But this was after several days and hours of discussions about my main issue of being unable to chip away at maintenance tasks, like work. Like this was my main concern: I CAN'T DO REGULAR MAINTENANCE. I AM INCAPABLE.

And a bonsai tree is literally the most antithetical gift I could possibly imagine because it needs intricate daily care and it lives forever. So...........

I'm just reeling tbh. I don't even want to confront him and I know he'll ask about it at some point, and I'll be like yeah it died 🤷‍♂️ and I'm just going to fixate on this forever jesus christ

What do?

  • LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves]
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    4 months ago

    Bonsai tree for ADHD is one of the best gifts ever. Having to take care of a living thing is surprisingly great for mental health and keeping routine. Aesop Rock even has a song about it, albeit it's about a cat and not a plant. It's all about building a routine. It's crazy how much better I've been doing just because I gotta wake up in the morning to water my cats, so much starts falling into place with little bits of routine.

    I think your Dad heard that rant and wanted to see you prove yourself wrong by starting with easy stuff. I'm also horrible at basic maintenance and making routines. Sometimes people have to make me do things I like, even if I'm upset at first. The bonsai tree could be a bad gift, but I really think its too early to tell. Give the bonsai tree a shot, you may be surprised with yourself.