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Can we just ban all hornyposting?
Removed by modI mean ALL of it, not just cis-het normative stuff. If you're asexual or just want to be serious, it's annoying having things like "I wish Marx and Engels would rail me in a threesome! :pingu-horny: " stuff in the posts/comments. Just as annoying as having some hot blonde girl with big boobs shoved in your face.
I thought the anti-horny justification was that lots of different people with different experiences are made uncomfortable by people talking about how much they want to bone someone, particularly public figures.
Look at how reddit is when an attractive woman is posted in a totally non-sexual context, 100 comment threads of horny posting, it's belittling, misogynistic and creepy and really, no one should have to read that when they want to shit post about communism. Talking about sex isn't verboten though, because queerness and sex positivity are good and relevant to the site, but volcel police curb the worst of it because it's a low stakes way to be like, OK, that's enough.
Yeah the subreddit used to have bad hornyposting (like with AOC I remember?) so that too, true, but I think I'm saying it does seem way better here, and we have made an effort, but yeah maybe sex stuff could be another CW requirement, fair
Edit: Although I hate it whenever the pronoun tags give away when someone is talking about being straight and especially a straight man with relationship talk (the reddit demo curse we inhereted) so honestly I would say those posts should have a CW too, but everyone yelled at me for saying that before
daily reminder that bisexuals exist
I am unfortunately reminded bisexuals exist every time I look in a mirror. Sorry but cis bisexual men are just as capable of doing annoying heteronormative masculinity as straight men so their bisexuality is not really relevant to my distaste for their blather. It would make me feel better to have sexuality tags and I do encourage every bisexual to start every post with a reference to their bisexuality if they want to endear themselves to me, which idk that they would, maybe men should just get over themselves also and not think everyone has to love everything they say or else they are being wronged
cis bisexual men are by definition not straight
OMG you are being so annoying right now and willfully misinterpreting me just to piss me off. Go away
no i'm not but whatever
You literally fucking were and you still insisted on goading me after I was obviously fed up. You were trying to use the existence of bisexuals (OF WHICH I AM ONE DUMMY) as a trap accusing me of being biphobic DURING PRIDE MONTH NO LESS in order to weirdly debate me over what is just a stated preference against a very plainly specific type of post. I'm just making a point about my perception and feelings and I explicitly excluded apparant bisexuals in my followup after you said literally the same thing the first time. Don't be rudely pedantic and try and use people's own ass sexuality as a cudgel against them! Who does that! Just be fucking nice and expain yourself and don't just repeat the same snide shit over and over!
Why do you hate it when straight people, especially men talk about their relationships?
(I'm not trying to be an annoying "straight pride" piss baby, I'm genuinely interested in learning if there's something I can do as a straight-presenting guy to avoid making people uncomfortable)
Imagine you are in a room trying to get loose and have a good time. There are about 50 people in this room, all talking loudly and hanging out, and its very noisy and people are in your space, like at a crowded bar. On reddit, even on the old subreddit, the room feels like 40 of the 50 people are young-adult, non-dropout, white American, straight, and men. This is a loud type of person, and occasionally an annoying one. They can be funny and agreeable, but still, that can be a tough room to spend a lot of time in, right? Here, it mostly feels like maybe 20 of the 50 fit that description, a much more comfortable breakdown. But in reality it is still majority that. So hearing men whine about woman problems breaks the illusion that this is a mostly GSM site, makes it feel like reddit again.
So how to solve this? No solution besides all you become gay and trans, easy enough if you really think about it. But failing that, just gotta accept that sometimes things you say are gonna be annoying to others. That's life. People are gonna hate when you do your thing, at least they aren't gonna be violent to you about it, count your blessings
I'm not exactly sure what changes should be made. Part of me thinks things are OK as they are, but I also know I've got inherent bias. I just wanted to make the case for why this is all important to discuss.