• Lussy [any, hy/hym]
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    1 month ago

    I fucking hate servers, man. I fucking hate dining out literally because of servers. I feel I have to do their fucking job, placate them, and teach them hospitality the entire time just so they won’t treat me like shit. And yet every time I’m compelled to leave them a 20% tip.

    I would rather fetch my own food and glass of water than have to deal with them. For every rude customer these people have to deal with, there’s 10 others like in the pic who just paid to have them dump their daily traumas on them

    • ChestRockwell [comrade/them, any]
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      1 month ago

      I think you're wildly underestimating the amount of assholes servers deal with. Especially women.

      Just tip the 20%, and be mad they aren't paid a fair wage. Getting mad about rude servers is really reactionary.

      Obviously tipping is evil, but remember refusing to tip is not praxis citations-needed

        • NewDark [he/him]
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          1 month ago

          And that came out of left field. What the hell?

          • Lussy [any, hy/hym]
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            1 month ago

            Literally the entire basis behind my complaints about servers

        • ChestRockwell [comrade/them, any]
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          1 month ago

          Racism is not the same as trauma dumping. Obviously if someone is blatantly racist or sexist you can withhold your tip. But complaining about having to tip and tying that to the _qualty of service _ is the issue here.

          Complain about the low wages they're paid (in many states submininum), but getting mad about tipping in this way is a bad look, especially when your post doesn't mention anything beyond the pale. Also, it doesn't change that servers should pool tips, tip out to back of house, and unionize. Fundamentally though, we can't withhold tips systematically to achieve increased wages. So until wages are raised and tipping is banned, you need to tip.

          • Lussy [any, hy/hym]
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            1 month ago

            So until wages are raised and tipping is banned, you need to tip.

            Yeah, that guilt tripping won’t work on me, I always tip. If I were to withhold tips every time I was being given bad service because of my race, I would never tip.

    • the_post_of_tom_joad [any, any]
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      1 month ago

      Hmmph. I see you've edited this comment once. Do it again, but just edit it to say "i never waited tables before." and save everyone here that second of translation time.

        • the_post_of_tom_joad [any, any]
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          1 month ago

          Indeed. That is objectively not "waiting tables", and after 2 years as a line cook fry guy dishwater and long time waiter i can tell you also that it subjectively is not "waiting tables".

          In no way is your time spent in the back of the house, in the proximity of waiters relevant to the trials of customer facing work waiting tables.

          Please stop being ridiculous

          • Lussy [any, hy/hym]
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            1 month ago

            You get paid more than any of us. Why did you not go back to work as a dishwasher or line cook instead of waiting tables if the daily horrors of dealing with the unwashed masses are so traumatizing?

            • the_post_of_tom_joad [any, any]
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              1 month ago

              Oh dear, you are letting the cap-prop get to you. Don't blame the worker for the conditions of their labor, c'mon what's goin on here?

              • Lussy [any, hy/hym]
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                1 month ago

                Servers are the front line representatives of the petit boug who own these establishments and I, as a food eater, have to deal with brunt of the racism embedded within these systems when I deal with you lot.

              • Lussy [any, hy/hym]
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                1 month ago

                Btw, what do you think I edited off my original comment? I fixed grammar lmao

                • the_post_of_tom_joad [any, any]
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                  1 month ago

                  It was merely a pretense for my telling you to "delete this nephew" in a new bespoke bust just for you.

                  I attempt to make every comment i make entertaining, even the insulting ones. This "serves" (get it?) two purposes: it is more fun for me, and more memorable for you.

                  Please remember to tip!

                  • Lussy [any, hy/hym]
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                    1 month ago

                    Please remember to tip

                    I’m going to actually tip less and less, kind of tired of racist bullshit

                    • the_post_of_tom_joad [any, any]
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                      1 month ago

                      No, you're fine with the racism, you just won't pay the waiter. Right? Cuz you're fine spending money in the racist establishment, and being served racism with your meal. You'll keep spending money to the racist owner who employs the racist server, eat the racist food, but the line in the sand you draw? Tipping racism. What an astounding take to share.

                      This isn't how you actually think. You're just fucking around with me cuz i know how to insult and you want the last word, right? I just can't grok this blind spot you have otherwise.

                      If you're just trolling, look... you don't need to come to with the perfect response to get back at me....you are insulting me! You've already won! The game at being obtuse and getting me angry, right? You've won, simply through your complete and comprehensive lack of effort.

                      • Lussy [any, hy/hym]
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                        1 month ago

                        No, you're fine with the racism, you just won't pay the waiter.

                        Bad faith bullshit when I’m talking about near constant interactions with racist waiters and I already said I always tip. I’m going to disengage.