shaming is always bad because it doesn't lead to constructive outcomes. When has it ever?

After school special moment: You're on a trajectory

drug addicted people go through stages of denial and deflection without always meaning it. And so online strangers don't know/can't know where you're at and it makes them sensitive and suspicious

"I fucking hate doing this and I'm sorry I'm a failure but I really need some help". Maybe some of the shame you feel is actually your own.